(Closed) Help fellow bees!!!…It's my first time leaving our furbaby ….

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did any of you go through the same thing?

   Our pup has never been allowed free reign while we were gone and has never chewed anything, but for the safety of our pup when she was littlest we had a large pen (Think Rugrats pen) and now we just gate her in the kitchen when we leave.

How long did it take you to feel okay about your decision?

   I felt bad at first, but like anything else you get used to it. Dogs sleep a lot and she will probably just sleep while you are gone. Be sure to leave her some toys to play with and to get lots of exercise before and after her lockup.

What can I do to not feel so terrible?

    Youll get used to it. Just be sure she has stuff to keep her entertained.

How could I not feel bad about leaving this cutie alone-

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did any of you go through the same thing?

Our pup is a chewer by nature.  He snuck out of his crate one time and broke and chewed multiple things. So until he is out of that stage he is crated daily. And he is fine.  Its his den, he is out when we are home. For his own safety he needs to be crated right now. 

How long did it take you to feel okay about your decision?

About a day.  The first day i crated him for 3 hours i felt HORRIBLE. BUt i realized that my anxiety made it worse. He was able to pick up on that and felt like being crated was somehow a bad thing. So i changed my tone. 5 minutes before i left i ignored him. He then went into his crate, i have him a treat. i stayed upstairs for 5 minutes then left. He has NEVER had a issue with being crated since the first day when i changed my tune. 

What can I do to not feel so terrible?

Because this is a dog.  They adapt.  You actually make matters worse when you baby your animals.  They misbehave when you feel bad for them and it causes their own anxiety which can lead to destructive behaviour. I personally think you have gone a little overboard with the water, extra toys and pee pad.  Hopefully he will just sleep the whole time. Rotate his toys or he will get bored of them.  DOnt leave alot of water or he probably WILL pee everywhere. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Did any of you go through the same thing? Yup, we sure did.  After a few weeks though of gating, she is now able to handle herself with free reign of the house.. of course now she’s over 1 year old, so it takes a while to train them.  We would keep her gated for a few days, try out not gated, if she messed up then we would put her back to being gated.  Eventually she got the picture.

How long did it take you to feel okay about your decision? I felt ok once I came home and saw that dogs just sleep all day so it really didn’t matter to her that she was gated off.

What can I do to not feel so terrible? Realize that you’re being a responsible pet owner and teaching your puppy the rules of your household.  Just like being a real parent, sometimes you have to lay down the law and make your kid unhappy.

How could I not feel bad about leaving this cutie alone? Because he’ll just sleep anyways! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you dog isn’t properly trained- house, potty, obedience, then its a good idea to have crate training in your bag of tricks!

However, 8 hours IMO, may be bordering on too long without a potty break for a little one! I know you have puppy pads, but no doggy wants to lay with their pee in their “space” for long amounts of time. I would highly suggest hiring a dog walker/sitter type person to come in the middle of the 8 hour day to take your baby out for potty- if they can do a walk ,even better!

Also, upping your exercise regimen with him before and after work ( to help with the destruction in general when he is out of the cage) will help tire him out phsyically and mentally for when he is going to have crate tiime. 

And if you think the crate is too scary- is there a space in the kitchen you can gate off on both ends? That way he can stretch his legs and be a little more feisty. And have space between his pee pad and where he may want to nap, snack, play etc?

Sorry, for all my rambling , but don’t worry, you will find something that works for you guys and enjoy puppy hood – it goes by way too fast ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would definitely suggest crate training him. There’s no reason that a crate should be viewed as “scary” to you or your pup. Crates are intended to mimick a dog’s den. It’s a safe, comfortable, familar space that actually takes much of the stress off your dog. Being in his safe spot will be comforting when you are away. (Our dogs often take naps in their crates with the door open as if its their bedroom.)

PP was spot on about upping the exercising before and after work. Wear him out before you leave and reward him with lots of play when you get home. I also agree that eight hours might be pushing it without a bathroom break for a puppy. If someone can stop in throughout the day and take him out to take care of business, that would definitely help with the housebreaking process. Eventually he’ll be able to handle 8 hours just fine. Its pretty similar to potty training a child…in the begining it seems like you’re spending all your time in the bathroom!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mija22:  Thats great about your MIL! Then you have nothing to worry about or feel guilty as you are wonderful doggy parents ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@mija22:  Firstly, you are NOT a bad owner by any means. You are a good owner giving your puppy boundaries, which is what he needs. We crate-trained ours which worked out wonderfully (and continues to) because he doesn’t use the washroom in his “house” and doesn’t get into mischief like he used to (when having free reign).

I think most dog owners can say that their puppies got into trouble from time to time or often. Mine chewed wicker baskets, the coat rack, a pair of shoes, a carpet, wooden legs on chairs, the side of the pantry, the side of the island, you name it! It definitely takes a lot of patience and understanding to make it through the first year of puppy-hood. Now that he is one year old, I find he has learned between right and wrong and only chews on his toys (thankfully). While we still crate him at night and when we leave, we are in talks of letting him roam in the back part of our house. *Just a note, I am currently a full-time student who attends school in the evenings so he is out during the day and also evening when my Fiance is home. We never crate him past 8 hours.*

As time goes by, leaving your puppy will get easier and he will become more comfortable being alone. Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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