- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
My Fiance has recently commented about a change he has seen in my personality. It didn’t sound like a compliment so I asked him to explain. He couldn’t put his finger on it exactly but he thinks it has something to to with the wedding planning and worried I am getting stressed.
I know what he means but didn’t want to admit it to him. I HAVE felt stressed and it’s made me paranoid. I find every little comment from others insulting, or think they are angry or upset with me. Why is that? If I was thinking rationally I would know they were being normal, nothing to worry about, but recently I let things things build up in my head till I let it all out to Fiance in one big blow out and this has started to worry him.
Can anyone relate??
An example would be: His family, Dad in particular, tend to jokingly tease me or ‘give me a hard time’ which is apparently how they are as a family and Fiance thinks it’s a good thing as they feel comfortable with me. I can’t take it though! I find every comment a personal attack about my personality, beliefs, likes, dislikes. I feel like I’m the one being targeted and I’m not used to it. My family just don’t do that.
I can see it from Fiance point of view, and it’s not easy when I take him to one side and complain about how HIS family are making me feel, he takes it personally sometimes and others trys to console me and tell me it’s just what they are like, not to worry.
It started out being just about his family but has soon developed into a constant worry about everyone around me. My friends ignore me, his friends don’t want to hang out with me, his female friends are hitting on him. I sound like a crazy lady!
I would really appriciate any advice.