(Closed) HELP! FI is absolutely set on having beer pong at reception :/

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should I give in and let him have this one?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Could you maybe suggest a casual day-after the wedding party where he could play beer pong to his heart’s content?

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    No.  No no no no no.  NO.

    Karaoke I could do.  Beer pong?  HELL NO.

    Your Fiance is off his rocker.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    In My Humble Opinion, there’s a time and a place for beer pong… And it’s not at a formal wedding. =/

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @trueblue14:  I was thinking the same thing.  Or maybe an afterparty?  Then he could join in the fun?

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @trueblue14:  This actually sounds like a great compromise!

    I applaud you for not smacking him upside the head so far, OP. :p He says he’s worried about people getting bored? I don’t know, I’ve been to dozen and dozens of weddings and I’ve never expected them to have all kinds of activities planned for me. Food, drinks, and dancing is about the norm. Is there anything else you can let him have his way on? Is he just harping on this because he thinks you’re shooting down his ideas (rightly so on this one, I am with you 100%!)?

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Hell no! Absolutely not. No way. Never.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    omigod yesss beer pong. better than karaoke imo. you can throw beer pong in a back corner; karaoke’s going to cut into the dancing. and if people aren’t dancing they’re drinking.

    maybe put someone on interference detail so noone plays too many games in a row, but it’s generally just that one guy (i guess two if they keep the same partners) that keeps winning that gets wasted and then sits in a chair all night. the majority of people will cycle in for a round and then bounce back out. i went to a formal(ish) event once where there were three beer pong tables along the back wall; half the people didn’t even know they were there (big venue with columns, dimmed lighting, dance floor at the very front)

    note: i might be biased. in college i made my own standard-sized beer pong flattop that i kept in my apartment for predrinks. 

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Hugs! We are not having a formal wedding and I wouldn’t want beer pong there either. I like the suggestions about the afterparty. Could you compromise with him by including some other “cool” guy thing that you would like too? Like one of those ice sculpture shot dispensers http://aseasontocelebrate.wordpress.com/2011/02/22/ice-ice-baby/ or…. ????

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    ps// i would absolutely nott have beer pong at my own wedding because my parents would shit a brick. but i’ve played it with other friends’ parents. i would ask him how he thinks his/your parents and other older relatives would take it… if they’d take it in stride i would totally go for it. if not… it’s time to start coming up with alternatives 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    no. Beer pong is not a wedding event, even if you are having a back yard BBQ.

    Maybe have a relaxed BBQ celebrating with his friends a few days before and let him kareoke and beer pong to his hearts desire at that? I would put my foot down. 

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’m really amused that there’s now an ad for a beer pong table appearing on the right side of this page.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It sounds like you have different  visions for your wedding and his is more laid back and fun while yours is more formal. I think you need to be honest with yourself about how much you respect his input and vision. It sounds to me like he doesn’t feel like what he wants matters, and the beer pong has become his Waterloo. 

    Maybe you could compromise and do the karaoke. (How is this worse or more bar-like than the stereotypical DJ & dancefloor anyway?)  Maybe you could explain to him the reasons you don’t want beer pong, specifically, but agree to have some family friendly games?  

    You may have to relax or adapt your idea of the reception to take some of his ideas on board, but that’s going to hold true for many things in your marriage, and this is silly thing to make people feel like their ideas aren’t valued over and argue about.

    And in the end, if what he really wants is beer pong, specifically, and it really matters to him, then I think you should find a way to make it work in your reception. 

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee

    I said no and I love beer pong!!!

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