(Closed) HELP! FI is absolutely set on having beer pong at reception :/

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should I give in and let him have this one?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 77
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You could have beer pong at the after party or the rehersal dinner but NOT at the actual reception.

    Post # 78
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Perhaps he’s feeling that he doesn’t have a say in the wedding plans, which is understandable. (It’s been my experience most guys don’t care or don’t speak up about these kinds of things- I realize I’m generalizing here- but let me get to the point)  I don’t think beer pong is an acceptable event for a formal wedding.

    If it’s really about beer pong and/or karaoke itself, a good compromise would be to have it at the rehersal dinner, an after party, or even the day after at a BBQ for family and friends? The day after my first wedding, we had a BBQ with family where we opened gifts and such, and it was a lot of fun- out of town family and friends came over and it was much more laid back since the stress of the day was over. If you could give him something that he has control over planning, maybe that would make him feel that he had more of a say in the event and he would back off his insistence on having beer pong at the actual wedding? I think it would be fun to have something like that, just at the right time and the right place. 

    It might also be that he doesn’t feel that the wedding reception doesn’t have anything that represents him personally at it. (I didn’t read all the posts above so I’m sorry if you’ve already covered this)  What part of the wedding/reception is HIM? Most of the wedding and the reception is flowers and dances and linens and stuff, most of which guys don’t really care about. (again, I’m generalizing, forgive me)  What can he have at the reception, aside from beer pong, that puts his stamp on the wedding itself?  Something personal, yet wedding appropriate.  There has to be some way to find a compromise. Another interest that he has aside from what he’s mentioned that could be incorporated. I’m sure you guys will find something 🙂  My 1st wedding, my ex wanted his groomsmen to wear black jeans and cowboy hats. We had a western wedding and that’s what they did. I wasn’t wild on the idea, but we had a formal wedding and it actually looked really good. Our photographer even showcased our photos as a sample of a western wedding. (of course now, I can’t stand anything western, but that’s a whole other story, haha!) Point is, it can be done 🙂

    I’m sure you guys will find some way to incorporate something that he wants that is classy enough to be included in a formal wedding, yet different enough to represent who he is so he feels the day is about him as well 🙂  Good luck!!

    Post # 79
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Tell him if he wants some beer pong, have a bachelor party.

    SO not classy.

    *pinky out*

    Post # 80
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I like the idea because it’s something unique, unit I understand your concern. Is there anyway you can fancy it up to make it more wedding appropriate?

    Post # 81
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Short answer: NO. 

    1. What about people driving home too drunk? 
    2. Are there going to be kids there? That is a little inapproperiate. 
    3. What about grand parents and parents? How will they handle this?

    Beer pong is for college, at home parties and very casual events. This is a wedding. If this is your “couple style” or the this would be a good event in your themed wedding that is one thing, I can get behind that but at a formal wedding? GIRL PLEASE! 

    Karaoke is a nice compromise. Having beer pong as a bachelor party event is awesome, or even as an after event is a good idea too, but not for general audiences at the reception. Call me old-fashioned. 

    I am sorry your Fiance is feeling unheard in his suggestions to the wedding, I know that can sting, remember that this is the time to make compromises and choose your battles.

    Post # 82
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I completely understand where he is coming from. He doesn’t want people to be bored at the wedding and to be honest, at a lot of the weddings I have been to, the men do get bored. Especially the younger generation (of which I am from) who don’t really like to dance like our parents do (at least in my experience). He just doesn’t want his wedding to be another boring wedding like the ones he’s had to sit through. 

    What about:

    • Cigar bar
    • Board games at the tables (hungry hungry hippos anyone?)
    • Card decks on the tables

    The “problem” with karaoke is that it will interrupt the dancing (as I see it, perhaps your Fiance is visualizing it differently). Unless you can set it up at another part of the venue?

    I know that beer pong is not very sophisticated, and I am very traditional, but the more I think about it, the more the idea grows on me, but only if you would set it up outside. Then again, my family is just crazy enough that they’d go for it. 

     

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