Help!! Fiancé doesn’t like my wedding dress

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I

    Keep the lace dress

    Keep shopping

  • Post # 2
    1151 posts
    Bumble bee

    How much did you spend on your current dress and do you have the budget for another?

    Personally I prefer the top right dress compared to the lace dress. I’m not a fan of heavy lace to start with, but I do like some lace. But after reading your FI’s description all I can see is how much it assembles curtains LOL…

    Post # 3
    3426 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ignore him. Men have no idea.

    I showed my husband my dress in a magazine and he hated it (he didn’t know it was my dress and it was styled very differently) needless to say he loved me in it – or if he didn’t he was clever enough to not show it / tell me.


    Post # 4
    717 posts
    Busy bee

    The lace dress looks absolutely gorgeous on you, and there is no way he would think it looked like a net curtain! Keep it it looks stunning!

    Post # 5
    2802 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    He hasn’t seen your dress, and he hasn’t seen it on YOU, which is the most important thing! I think you look great – you’ve got a great figure and that dress shows it off perfectly.  You could probably add a sparkly belt or some statement jewellery to bling it up a bit if you wanted to.  I say keep your dress!

    Post # 6
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My husband hates lace and I unexpectedly ended up with a lace dress. He mentions frequently how he couldn’t have picked a more perfect dress for me, so I do think your husband will be blown away by you on the day. 

    I second PP in suggesting getting a sparkly belt and/ or wearing a sparkly headband and veil  

    Post # 7
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Bee, even if he vomits at the sight of lace there’s no way he could hate that dress on you! It suits your body so well. If you do decide to get something else I’d urge you to keep the same shape.

    Post # 8
    95 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: City hall & Home

    I think it looks beautiful on you,and fit your figure very well! My Fi usually don’t like ball gown or even a little poof, then i showed him pictures of a dress that is very similar to mine and he said he would love to see me in it and it would look gorgeous 🙂 so don’t think too much, try to bling it up like Pp said 😀

    Post # 9
    1240 posts
    Bumble bee

    does your fiance usually have strong opinions on women’s fashion? because if not i would completely ignore him. also, consider all the times women have had their hearts set on a specific type of dress only to try it on and find that it completely didn’t suit them for whatever reason. i’d bet all the money that your fiance will have the complete opposite reaction when he sees how gorgeous you look in your dress. ‘i don’t like lacey dresses’ is such an abstract idea, when he’s faced with the love of his life looking radiant in a lace dress i bet he gets on board real quick. 🙂 

    Post # 10
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    I feel like when you say “lace” to a guy they think of their grandma’s old doilys / curtains / table cloth and don’t realise wedding dress lace is very different 😉 Don’t worry bee you look beautiful in your dress!

    Post # 11
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    Ignore him – he won’t be focused on the details once he sees you in that beautiful lace dress!

    Post # 12
    761 posts
    Busy bee

    I love the top right dress a lot but I also picked a lace dress with some sparkle. I have no idea if my fiancée will like it because we haven’t talked dresses but I can understand that you want to WOW him. I wonder why you didn’t feel bridal in the first dresses?

    your lace dress is streamlined. Maybe he has a different idea in his head if what a grandma looking lace dress would be like. Because yours is beautiful and firm fitting and not frilly. Are you happy with it? Can you afford to buy another dress?

    Post # 13
    3841 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    Echoing PPs to ignore him. I showed Dh 10 dresses and asked him to rank them. My wedding dress came in 7th. He loved it on me the day of. How something looks in a photo is nothing like how it would look on. I didn’t even like my own dress on the website, but it looked totally different on me and I loved it.

    Post # 14
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Your dress is beautiful and it is absolutely NOTHING like I imagined from your Fi’s description of what he doesn’t like.  I think its safe to say it is also absolutely nothing like the type of dress he though he was describing.  There is no point stressing about a (mis)interpretation of an idea that probably wasn’t communicated very well and bears no relation to the actual dress you bought.

    Either show him a pic of a similar dress to the one you bought to test his reaction, or just trust your own judgement.  If you love it and you look great in it, he will love it too x

    Post # 15
    1505 posts
    Bumble bee

    Pay no mind to it. Once he sees vis beautiful bride, he won’t even remember he doesn’t like lace! My husband told me for years he hates lace, and hates lace wedding dresses. My dress was all lace, and he LOVED it and always talks about how amazing I looked and the dress was perfect. Keep your dress! 

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