Post # 1
Today the event coordinator for the gardens we’d chosen for our wedding ceremony just informed us that our 10am ceremony start was a no-can-do. Because…someone else had managed to edge themselves in for a 11am setup for their noon wedding.
Sooooo…she said we had to start between 9:00 to 9:30am! I’m not keen as it takes an average 30-40 minutes for even the closest family and friends to get there, meaning it’ll be crazy early for everyone!
I don’t understand why we can’t start 10am since we won’t even need setup time, just 30 minutes vows and we’ll be on our way.
Reason we want those gardens is because its 5 minutes walk to our 11am reception. Do you think 9:30am ceremony is too early? Should I somehow just say its optional on invites? I’m fine with friends just turning up at 11am photos, canapes and lunch reception.
Post # 3
@blinx: No way! This will give you more picture time between the two events. You could always see if the reception coordinator can give you an extra half hour to see if you can open those doors a bit earlier. This could work out for you though, since most of your family will be neeced for the pictures any way.
Also – if your contract for the ceremony says 10:00am start – they can’t change that. If your dead set on 10:00am – tell them oh well. You have it in writing – they legally can’t make you change the time. I would tell them you want a price reduction to even consider it. (That’s the lawyer in me!)
Post # 4
I would say that 9:30 should work. It is a little early, but if I was a guest for your wedding I would be happy to get up early to see you get married 🙂 A half hour really doesn’t make a difference anyway.
Do you know how long your ceremony is going to be? It’s likely that it won’t take a full hour, either, so maybe you could still do 10 and be done a little before 11?
Post # 5
If you had your 10am before this person got an 11am..then you’re in the right…they can’t make you change your time.
Post # 6
I agree, check your contract. There is no reason that, if it is in your contract to start at 10, you should be asked to start earlier.
If it is not in your contract, then I’d suggest moving everything a half hour earlier.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
People will make it to your ceremony- I wouldn’t say “optional.” It is early, but if you have to change it (like other bees said, check your contract!), it’ll be fine.
Post # 8
@AlliRae: Cheers, I definitely would go to a friend’s wedding at 9am too. Yeh, I just know half my bridesmaids are NOT early risers and don’t want anyone hating me for it, but they’ve all been so supportive about it being a once in a lifetime kind of day, they’d wake at 3am if they have to!
The ceremony should only be 30 minutes max, but the coordinator keeps saying I might change my mind about decorating the place (I’m not decorating al all) and have all this elaborate setup to put up and take down. Seriously, sounds like she’s never met a minimalist bride before.
@LaurenMcGovern: Lol, love the way you think! My fiance said the exact same thing about getting a price reduction too. 🙂 Thanks, your ideas made my day.