Post # 1
This is my first post as a bee! I am getting married this NYE and getting married later in the evening with a cocktail reception. We are having a husband and wife both stand up for us and back when we got engaged, I asked their now 2-year old to be our flower girl. After finalizing the timeline of our big day, we’ve realized that our wedding isn’t really kid-friendly and she would miss her afternoon nap that day. Our ceremony start time is usually her bed time too. How can I un-ask her to be our flower girl? I feel horribly but I really don’t want a screaming 2 year old during our vows. I think I just got caught up in the excitment of being engaged and didn’t even think before I asked her Mother if she would be our flower girl.
Post # 3
Talk to her mom- she’s the one who knows her daughter best. I’m sure if the couple is good friends of yours, they’ll do what they can to make sure your ceremony is what you want it to be.
Post # 4
Why would she miss her nap if the ceremony isnt until later? I agree with pp speak to her mom, be up front with your timeline, plans, and concerns. If she doesnt think her daughter can handle it, give her the option to back out…were in the same rut, but I think the kids can get a late nap in and hopefully will be fine (fingers crossed) Our ceremony is at 8pm…
Post # 5
I would talk to her mom. Maybe they’ll be able to take a nap at a different time so she’ll be ok for your ceremony.
Post # 6
Tell the Mom the situation and your worries. The last thing she wants is to have a screaming unmanagable child and be embarassed when her child has a meltdown. If she is concerned, she’ll let you know, and you can move on from there.