(Closed) Help for a Newbee-RSVP Card Wording for Drink Options

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

How are you going to do this, logistically? Are you going to have bracelets at the reception?

I think almost everyone who drinks even occasionally will say yes. I don’t drink very much but I would answer yes, I’d want to have one or two.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@joious: I’m confused. Are you having an open bar? or are you having a cash bar?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is your venue OK with this approach? When we looked at open bars with a PP rate, most were leery about even letting us exclude certain family members like my father, who doesn’t drink at all, ever. They were only OK with excluding underagers. I think the rationale was that without an armband or something, they couldn’t get an accurate count.

Post # 6
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2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@atalante: I second this. Make sure to run it past your venue first. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I only got to exclude underage kids. It didn’t matter if someone was a teetotaler or not.

However, my cousin married a mormon and HALF her guests didn’t drink. She did get a price cut for that.

Post # 8
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010
Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Even if you ask I don’t think you will get an accurate number.  Most people will say yes because they don’t want to risk not getting included.  Who wants to say no now for something happening months in advance?  I also wouldn’t advocate asking if people want cake or champagne for a toast.  It is too early.

I also don’t think there is a way to ask that isn’t going to make you look cheap to some people.  I think you have to assume that all/most will particiapte and pay accordingly.

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@joious: Can you decide on what works for your budget and tell the venue you’re willing to pay for “x” amount of drinks. At the time you reach the budget you’ve set they should check with you. If it’s towards the end of the evening you would be able to continue assuming you might only go slightly over, you may never hit your limit, or if it’s early, you could switch it to a cash bar at that point.

Post # 13
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10589 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

As a guest, if I saw this I might be a little confused.  I’ve never heard of a venue operating that way.  If I were you, I would just estimate.  You probably know which of your friends and family are drinkers, and which aren’t.  Check with both your parents to get a better idea.

Post # 14
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1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m surprised your venue is letting you report headcount on how many people are going to drink. Most contracts and venues that I’ve encounted counted ALL over 21 attendees and charged regardless of if an individual drank 10 drinks or 0. What’s stopping a bride from reporting 20 and having those 20 people get drinks for 3 of their friends instead of reporting 60 people?

 

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