(Closed) Help for a pregnant bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think giving her a heads up now would be best. Maybe she would rather have you as a guest instead of worrying up until the end if you will feel up to participating or so she could pick a style of dress for you that would work well with the other bridesmaids.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am in the exact same situation as you except I’m the bride! My maid of honour is pregnant and due two weeks before my wedding. I say tell her. She will likley just be super happy for you. My girls are all wearing different styles of dresses so that wasn’t an issue for us – but even if it was I would have been more than happy to let her pick a different style so she would be comfortable.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

congratulations!!!!! thats great!!

my guess is that your friend would not care that you were pregnant at her wedding (unless she is bridezilla-ish) but i think you should say something. to me, 11 days is cutting it pretty close! unless you are really early or REALLY late, it might be tough to commit to Bridesmaid or Best Man duties on the day of the ceremony. this way you have time to come up with a plan b?

Post # 6
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would talk to the bride and let her know before going dress shopping. I know you want to keep the news to yourself, but with a due date that close, you will either have a new newborn, be very pregnant (and prob uncomfortable), or not be there at all suddenly. Chances are if she knew this was a “possiblity” then she has already made some kind of arrangement for just in case.

Plus then at the shopping, you both can explain that you are trying to get pregnant, and guide the bms to a dress that will work for everyone, instead of outing you when you aren’t comfortable with it.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would tell her but ask her to respect your wish to keep the pregnancy confidential for the time being.

I think it will be easier for her if you can speak with her ahead of the dress shopping trip, so that if she agrees with the idea of having different style dresses in the same fabric and/or color, it will appear to the rest of the bridal party that it was the bride’s idea.

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