- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
One of my good friends is getting married in May. She’s having issues with one of the other bridesmaids who really hasn’t done ANYTHING to help the rest of us out. I will refer to this Bridesmaid or Best Man as Bridesmaid or Best Man7. There have been a few drama type situations with the wedding overall but this is the icing on the cake and my friend is freaking out. Here’s the story…..
Bride started the drama a little (she didn’t mean to, she was trying to make things more efficient). She has a huge wedding party, 7 people per side, and didn’t want to appoint one person as Maid/Matron of Honor because she didn’t want to choose between friends. Some friends are close to one another, some hardly know one another and some dislike one another. Bridesmaid or Best Man7 is disliked by the majority of BM’s and vice versa (I think it goes back to high school – I didn’t know them then), I feel somewhat impartial because I’ve only met her a handful of times. Thankfully a few people have stepped up to the plate and taken on certain tasks so that it hasn’t been a complete disaster.
At the very beginning, the bride picked up dresses for the BM’s (While she was on holidays) the problem – people got “assigned” dresses and without trying them on ahead of time. Some dresses are not overly flattering/don’t fit well. A few people complained a bit, including myself but particularly Bridesmaid or Best Man7 who doesn’t have much tact and was really rude about it. The bride basically told everyone to suck it up or not be in the wedding – so things didn’t start out with the best tone.
Anyway fast forward a few months and Bridesmaid or Best Man7 is talking to MOB about how she should get to bring a guest. The Bride had specifically not allowed Bridesmaid or Best Man7 to be entittled to a guest because A – they are reallly tight on numbers and B – she knew her date would end up being this sketchy guy from high school who is the ex of another Bridesmaid or Best Man and makes most people feel really uncomfortable with his creeper/stalker like comments. MOB wasn’t totally in the know about this situation and gave perrmission to Bridesmaid or Best Man7 to bring a date and even said it would be ok if it was sktechy guy. Bridesmaid or Best Man7 by the way is not dating sketchy guy, they are friends with benefits and hang out here and there.
The Bride got in a fight with MOB and also Bridesmaid or Best Man7 about how there is no room for guests, in particular sketchy guy. MOB says “oh well there isn’t much we can do” and Bridesmaid or Best Man7 is now being even more difficult, fighting the bride on every last issue. Bride wants hair up – do what you want as long as it’s up and Bridesmaid or Best Man7 claims “her face is too fat to wear it up” and is refusing. Bride asked that everyone wear black pumps with peep toe (non-slingback) and Bridesmaid or Best Man7 is claiming to wear some sort of strappy sandal/gladiator shoe. Bridesmaid or Best Man7 has also commented that she should be Maid/Matron of Honor when she’s done nothing to help with ANYTHING.
The problem is that the Bride has NO IDEA what to do about sketchy guy. She’s not willing to bend on all the other things but the biggest deal of all is that of sketchy guy. Personally I think since MOB screwed it all up, she should deal with it, however MOB doesn’t think it’s a big deal or that there’s anything wrong with sketchy guy. Any suggestions???? Thanks in advance!!!!!