Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2019 - -
My wedding was a few weeks ago and it was absolutely beautiful and perfect and more than everything we hoped it would be. Our ceremony and the day overall was super emotional of course. We jetted off on our honeymoon a couple of days after and spent over two weeks on the other side of the world connecting with nature, each other and our own selves. It was really a perspective and even life changing trip and combined with the wedding, it was an overall huge experience – more than I was prepared for. It all made me realize how short life is and the things that truly matter. So, coming back to work at my high stress, very fast paced firm has been tough. I get that I was on an emotional high for a while so coming down from that and back to reality is hard, but I’m feeling this nagging sense of the need to re-order some of my priorities and do more for my mental and personal health in a way I haven’t felt before. Did anyone else feel like this, and how did you cope? What gave you a sense of purpose or brought you excitement/filled your time after your wedding? I have of course been focusing on nurturing our new marriage with DH and we are very excited for all that is to come (buying a house, kids, etc.) but that stuff is still a bit far off. In these initial weeks in the day-to-day there is all this time that used to be consumed by wedding planning that I poured so much of my heart into that is now empty. I’m just feeling a little depressed and could use some anecdotes/pick-me ups/encouragement, and hopefullyknow that I’m not alone. Thanks so much in advance! Xx
Post # 2
What you’re describing is exactly what happens when people attend those nature-based retreats/rehabs! (An issue we are actually facing with one we are trying to start up) You get away from it all… have time to really look within and enjoy the beauty of life… then you’re dropped back into the same situation that had you needing that peace and it leaves you with even more yearning for the balance you had acheived! It’s no wonder you feel thrown off. Now I’m not gonna neccesarily recommend you find a traveling/work-from-home job and move into an RV like we did, but maybe a new hobby is in order if you have time? And if you don’t, perhaps consider whether your daily demands are worth the impact on your wellbeing.
Post # 3
I’m struggling with that a bit myself. In the 3 weeks since we returned from our honeymoon I haven’t been motivated to cook or clean, I’ve been feeling lazy and a bit down. I’m glad all the wedding planning stress is over, but it was something to look forward to. I’m itching to plan a vacation for next year so that I will have something to look forward to.
Post # 4
said, my husband and I planned a couple of small weekend trips in the first year of our marriage. These trips didn’t require taking more time off of work or breaking the bank, but they did allow us to plan getaways that we’d wanted to go on together, provided us with something to look forward to, and allowed us to reconnect away from the bustle and routine of daily life!
Post # 5
1- You need a new project to focus on. One of the best tips my mother in law told us was to make sure that you regularly have things you are working on together. As more years pass, the more I see the deep wisdom of that advice.
2- Also, it sounds like you may be realizing that it’s time to make some adjustments in your life, so that could be another area of focus. I love retreats (and try to do one at least once a year) because the time and space for decompression helps me realize how contracted I have become. It also helps me to adjust my lifestyle year after year, so that I do not need to get away to recenter and rebalance, I can do it from where I am.
Are there significant things that come to mind that could be motivating or exciting projects for you and your new husband or changes that you know you would like to make right now?
Post # 6
I feel you bee, we’re coming up to 6 months married and I still sometimes get a little down about it being over but trust me it does get easier. I’ve found that planning things and doing things we weren’t able to do before the wedding (planning and saving money restricted us) has been welcoming. We’ve flew to Vegas and just returned from NY to see UFC fights (huge UFC fans.) We’re trying to have date night at a new restaurant every week, booking gigs or comedy shows to attend and just really enjoying being husband and wife.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2019 - -
Thanks all for the validation and encouragement! Glad to feel like it’s not just me – I was hearing and seeing a lot about pre-wedding depression (which I didn’t have) and nothing about post-wedding! I’m certainly glad that the holidays are coming up, really looking forward to planning some gatherings and enjoying our first married holiday season. And I definitely have some soul-searching to do in between. Thanks for the love bees!
Post # 8
What the hell is post wedding blues? I mean this seriously! What is post wedding blues? You’re married arent you? That was the purpose of the wedding. You are beginning your life as a married couple but if you lived together before, you already started your life so it was just the formalization.