Help for post-wedding blues?

posted 9 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Worker bee

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@ absinthevintage   What you’re describing is exactly what happens when people attend those nature-based retreats/rehabs! (An issue we are actually facing with one we are trying to start up) You get away from it all… have time to really look within and enjoy the beauty of life… then you’re dropped back into the same situation that had you needing that peace and it leaves you with even more yearning for the balance you had acheived! It’s no wonder you feel thrown off. Now I’m not gonna neccesarily recommend you find a traveling/work-from-home job and move into an RV like we did, but maybe a new hobby is in order if you have time? And if you don’t, perhaps consider whether your daily demands are worth the impact on your wellbeing. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I’m struggling with that a bit myself. In the 3 weeks since we returned from our honeymoon I haven’t been motivated to cook or clean, I’ve been feeling lazy and a bit down. I’m glad all the wedding planning stress is over, but it was something to look forward to. I’m itching to plan a vacation for next year so that I will have something to look forward to.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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@nightskyforest said, my husband and I planned a couple of small weekend trips in the first year of our marriage. These trips didn’t require taking more time off of work or breaking the bank, but they did allow us to plan getaways that we’d wanted to go on together, provided us with something to look forward to, and allowed us to reconnect away from the bustle and routine of daily life! 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

1- You need a new project to focus on. One of the best tips my mother in law told us was to make sure that you regularly have things you are working on together. As more years pass, the more I see the deep wisdom of that advice.

2- Also, it sounds like you may be realizing that it’s time to make some adjustments in your life, so that could be another area of focus. I love retreats (and try to do one at least once a year) because the time and space for decompression helps me realize how contracted I have become. It also helps me to adjust my lifestyle year after year, so that I do not need to get away to recenter and rebalance, I can do it from where I am.

Are there significant things that come to mind that could be motivating or exciting projects for you and your new husband or changes that you know you would like to make right now?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I feel you bee, we’re coming up to 6 months married and I still sometimes get a little down about it being over but trust me it does get easier. I’ve found that planning things and doing things we weren’t able to do before the wedding (planning and saving money restricted us) has been welcoming. We’ve flew to Vegas and just returned from NY to see UFC fights (huge UFC fans.) We’re trying to have date night at a new restaurant every week, booking gigs or comedy shows to attend and just really enjoying being husband and wife. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

What the hell is post wedding blues? I mean this seriously! What is post wedding blues? You’re married arent you? That was the purpose of the wedding. You are beginning your life as a married couple but if you lived together before, you already started your life so it was just the formalization. 

 

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