(Closed) HELP!! Future Mother in Law Drama!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your fiance should not be getting upset.  Ask him to talk to his mom and let her know how you are feeling and that you are confused as to why she is treating you this way.  Once he puts the bug in her ear, she will likely contact you and you should be able to sit down with her and talk everything out if you were as close as you stated.  I think he is key though because I do not think its ok to apprach the mom on your own.  You need his support and you need him to understand that you want to keep the relationship between you two untainted.  There is a reason she is acting this way and he needs to get to the bottom of it without throwing you under the bus with his mom. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

If you have always been close with her is there a chance you could bring it up with her? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s possible that she is threatened by the permanence of your relationship with her son now in a way that she never was before you were engaged. The important thing to remember though is that this is HER problem Not yours.

You can’t force someone to be friendly towards you, you can only make sure that you are always friendly and respectful towards her. Eventually she will either realize that she’s being silly or she won’t, but I would advocate for being politely distant and not continually bringing it up to your Fiance since he is aware of the issue and doesn’t seem inclined to address it. Besides, if she really has decided that she doesn’t like you for whatever reason, putting your Fiance in the middle could make it worse.

If he brings her up, I would be polite, but quickly change the subject to more neutral territory and while I’m not saying that you should be anything but kind, I’d just treat her as I would anyone else who didn’t like me, I’d acknowledge her, but not seek her company. 

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