(Closed) Help! Get me to the church (okay, garden) – show me the way….

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Going to the chapel....
    Side Entry, greet family, haul ass and change dress, walk back down with the boy : (0 votes)
    Walk aisle with boy, gesture to family, get hitched : (3 votes)
    50 %
    Walk aisle with boy, get hitched, gesture to family : (3 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
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    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m a fan of the bride and groom walking the aisle together and I think it will work well for the setting you have. I would worry about the quick dress change…something could always go wrong there (especially if you’re rushing, when fumbling with zippers and ripped fabric become more likely), and then you’d have people waiting for you to enter and no bride.

     

    I can’t remember where I may have heard this, but maybe you could carry a few flowers that aren’t tied in with the rest of your bouquet and “deliver” them to your parents, grandparents, and siblings on the way up the aisle? You could also print their names in your programs or just leave recognizing them until the reception when table-to-table greeting is normally done. I just feel like there’s gotta be an easier way to include your family that is drama-free and won’t involve you rushing from greeting people, to changing your dress, to walking up the aisle in a few minutes.

    Post # 5
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    6742 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think I’m super confused about what you’re saying to do, but if you ask me I wouldn’t appear in a reception dress and greet guests first.  I would have your Fiance stand at the bottom of the steps waiting for you, when you appear at the top of the steps, he should walk up, give you a hand and walk down with you together, down the aisle, then get married.  Then, the both of you walk back and you change into your reception dress then (if that’s what you want) OR, you both walk back up the aisle and then make your rounds together, greeting everyone.  That’s how I would do it, I think. 

    Post # 7
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    6742 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @beeble2121:  Ah, I see – you don’t want to miss out on that hour, I get it now.  I don’t think it’s cruel to make them sit with no formal acknowledgement until later, as long as you do it at some point. 

    When you say you enter and spend a moment with your parents and then change – do you mean that whole thing will take an hour before you change and head into the ceremony?  The hour you mentioned was the ‘cocktail hour’ pre ceremony? 

    Btw – it’s not that untraditional.  Jewish weddings have a cocktail hour first (that I believe the bride does usually miss) and then the ceremony followd by a reception with dinner – the only thing you’re missing is the dinner, plus you want to be at the cocktail hour. 

    Post # 9
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    6742 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @beeble2121:  I agree – no matter what, someone’s going to be pissed about something because that’s just how people are especially when it comes to events that aren’t anything at all about them lol.  Do what’s least stressful for you!  And it’s not selfish at all to want to be at your own cocktail hour – I do, too, but I want mine to be before the ceremony and I’m struggling with appearing there, but still making it to my ceremony in my white dress instead.  I completely understand your frustration!!

    Post # 12
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    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think you should not worry about the family while you are getting ready for the ceremony.  You seriously have enough to think about.  Walk down the aisle with your husband-to-be, do the ceremony, walk down the aisle again as husband an wife, and do all acknowledgements after!  Also, the dress change is so risky! However, just make sure you have a good “dress change” support group to help you out!

     

    Maybe you could put a special colored chair cover on the family chairs, and a flower with a love note for them on the chair as well. This way they feel special, but you are not trying to do an acknowledgements speech during the ceremony.

     

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