Post # 1
Hi ladies! I’ve had my heart set on adding off-the-shoulder, cap-type sleeves to my Maggie Sottero Vogue dress. I talked to the seamstress about it over the phone, and we were all set to go… I brought it into her, put it on, started talking about what I wanted… and both she and her partner told me that “I’d ruin the whole look of the dress” if I did it 🙁 They emphasized how beautiful it was and what a mistake I’d be making.
So, for the past two weeks or so, I’ve let them talk me out of it. But, the more I think about it, the more I really, really WANT an off-the-shoulder dress versus just a strapless dress. It’s what I’ve always pictured myself in, and it just feels “me.” AND I’m getting married OUTDOORS in October (NY!) and, even though the sleeves won’t add any warmth, I just feel like… I don’t know? Like a strapless dress looks out of place?
I need your opinions – honest opinions. Do you think I’m ruining the look? Do you think it looks right with cap sleeves? Do you think it looks better with sleeves? Do you think I should just leave it alone and be happy with the gorgeous dress I have?
I attached pictures of two dresses I almost bought that have the look I’m going for sleeve wise… and a painted picture of the Vogue with sleeves… and one without.
PLEASE HELP! I have a horrible time standing my ground and letting people convince me I don’t want what I want… so I really need to know if this is a bad idea.
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Post # 3
I think you should do what you want! Add the sleeves… they don’t “ruin” the dress at all. It’s not like you’re asking for big poufy crazy sleeves!
Post # 4
What a beauty of a dress!! This is your day, your way!! Remember that!!
Post # 5
Love the cap sleeves. i’m so over the whole strapless dress trend.
Post # 6
I am “sleeving” my Milana. The cap-sleeves ofcourse! I don’t know…I kinda feel “tube-top-ish” w/out them…
Post # 7
Do what you want! I think it could look nice with sleeves.
Post # 8
I think it looks nice with sleeves but it needs to be done correctly to make it look like its part of the dress.
I don’t think the cap sleeves that are mesh or lace would match obviously. I also don’t really like that thin beaded strap looking one you posted.
I think you need to try to match the material and style of the bust of the dress in order to make it flow best.
Post # 9
i think it would look really beautiful with sleeves if they were made out of the same material as whats on the chest, silk tulle (?). If it was an off the shoulder sheer sleeve it would look amazing. I know what theyre saying, because the dress is damn gorgeous by itself, but if they don’t want to do what you want, maybe they aren’t seeing what you are and you should go somewhere else!
Post # 10
I think the cap sleeves really would make that dress. It’s gorgeous without, but the sleeves just make it amazing.
Post # 11
That’s what I was thinking, going with that same ivory tulle (my actual dress is diamond white over light gold, so that may be interesting…) She had suggested that, if I were going to do it, I use the left over string from my corset and bead it and use those strings as my sleeves, but that’s too thin for me.
Post # 12
I like it a lot better with the cap sleeves actually! I say go for it. If she doesn’t want to make them, go to a different seamstress!
Post # 13
From the drawing, it doesn’t look like it would ruin it at all but I am not a seamstress and I don’t know how materials work. Is that what they mean by ruining the dress — maybe not the look of it will be ruined but the fabrics itself?
I think you should insist on what you want but also be aware they may or may not be right about the end result. If they are good at their job, it’s their job to know what will work or not. That said, its your decision of what you want!
I am also an New York October bride — ceremony and cocktail hour are outdoors — reception inside…and I’m going strapless! haha If its too cold, the venue I chose also has an lovely indoor option so I’m not too worried it about either way. I might be too nervous to be cold — maybe after my heart calms down I will be able to think about the tempature!
Post # 14
Have you played with them in person yet? Like you and the seamstress and some extra fabric try out some variations widths, placements, etc. I definitely think you should add them, but if you’re still hesitating, go play in real life and try it out!
Post # 15
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I actually think the sleeves would ADD to the beauty of the dress!!! Do it!
Post # 16
Cap sleeves would be more gorgerous. But your seamstress seems don’t know how to add it. I’m afraid if you insist and make her do it, she would ruin your dress. Maybe you should ask for someone else to do it