- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So I don’t often write on the boards, but I actually have a situation that myself and my fiance would love some advice on. Basically, we are getting married in November and my fiance has choosen 8 of his friends to be his groomsmen. (I know it is a huge bridal party….but he has a lot of friends) Anyway, one of his groomsman is a childhood friend that had recently moved to our town (Philadelphia) at the time of the engagement. He helped my fiance choose the ring and even decorated our house to celebrate after the engagement went down. When he first moved here we were inviting him over a lot for dinner and really welcomed him to Philadelphia. Slowly he began to get busy with work and gain new friends outside of our friends. We were really happy for him and encouraged him to make a life for himself in Philly. However, now we never see him! Literally, we invite him to hang out all the time and maybe see him once every 3 months. Also, when he moved here he didn’t have alot of money, so we offered to put him on our cell phone plan for it to be a little cheaper for him. It’s been months and even with persistent text messages/calls he hasn’t paid his bill. It’s getting frustrating because my fiance is starting to harbor negative feelings toward him and is questioning his role as groomsman in our wedding. I never thought we’d be in the position. Part of me just wants to tough it out and not hurt anyone’s feeling; however another part of me is hurt that our old friend has become so unreliable. What should we do? Has anyone ever experienced a flakey bridal party member?