(Closed) HELP! Guest didn’t receive invite BUT it didn’t get returned…

posted 13 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

This happened to me too!

Several people did not receive their invites, though they received bridal shower invites, etc.  I didnt get any of the invites back either and I mailed mine the first week of March!  I think it is a mix of the script on the envelopes and the people at the post office…people living in the same house did not all get their invites (which is why i think a lot of the issue is the post office).

I put out feelers to make sure everyone received their invite.  Since I cant resend the invite, I had people RSVP on the website.  But there are still some that I am worried about…people I expected to come that have not RSVPd, etc. 

I guess I have no real advice…just that you are not alone.  I wouldnt say to call everyone, but make sure that everyone has the wedding website (did you send out STDs?). 

Post # 4
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hmmm…it might be cultural, but in my family’s circle (incl. friends) you do usually call if you haven’t received an RSVP.  So that would be my advice in this case.  You could also send out a mass e-mailing pointing people to your website (if you have one).  Then if someone didn’t get an invite they’ll probably let you know that.


Post # 5
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Anything could have happened to it.  Maybe you accidentally miswrote the address (if you hand wrote them) and the post office is still trying to figure out the correct address.  Maybe it was lost, who knows! The USPS is a mystery.

I would just resend the invitation.  I wouldn’t worry about the rest of them, unless of course you never recieve an RSVP from them.

Good Luck!

Post # 6
257 posts
Helper bee

Dont worry!

The post office takes weeks to return non-deliverable mail so that’s why you haven’t gotten it back yet. Once your RSVP deadline passes simply call any guests you haven’t heard from. If they tell you they didn’t receive the invite either send them another one or give them the information over the phone. If you’ve already gotten some response cards back it’s safe to assume that the majority of your guests received the invitation.

Post # 7
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I know that at the company where I work, we get alot of mail returned due to change of address etc.. it sometimes takes 2 or so MONTHS to get the mail returned to us from the post office. I have no clue why.

I would definitely call up anyone who hasnt RSVPed by the specified date and make sure they got it.

Post # 8
46 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

I have recieved non-deliverable christmas cards into late january and february, it just takes a long time sometimes.  I would do what Habibi suggests.  Good luck!

Post # 9
55 posts
Worker bee

many things could’ve happened. maybe the mail person delivered to the wrong address… they’re only human and make mistakes.

some of our guests didn’t get their invites, and we got only one returned to us. we just called those that didn’t RSVP by the due date to make sure they got their invitation, and got their RSVP via phone. some of them just plain forgot to mail their RSVP out. this irked me a bit cause it already had a stamp on it! urgh.

Post # 10
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just make sure you are keeping a good list of all the RSVPs you get. I would suggest that a week after the RSVP date you make calls to those who haven’t responded letting them know that you haven’t heard anything yet and not sure if its the USPS or just them…

but with better wording naturally 🙂

Post # 12
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

This also happened to us! We had 3-4 people that didn’t get their invitation, and it never came back. (All addresses were verified and correct).

Definitely ask around, to ensure this didn’t happen to any of your other invitees. I can empathize with your frustration, having been there myself.

Post # 13
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would just ask those who haven’t RSVPs, don’t stress, what’s done is done with the post office. Just make sure you give the ones who haven’t responded a quick call and I’m sure they will understand. Then make sure you put all of your wedding info on a weddingwebsite or soemthing they can reference.

Post # 14
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I got my returned mail about 6-8 weeks after I sent them out.  It kind of stinks when there’s a deadline to consider.  I would just call the people on the list who haven’t responded.

Post # 15
87 posts
Worker bee

This happened with four STDs (fourth one got there), a bridal shower invite, and baby shower invite were sent to a good friend. She was so upset that she didnt get the shower invite from my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t email to follow up until the week before the shower. Since she lived 15 hours away she couldn’t find a reasonable flight on such short notice. Moral of the story – if you haven’t heard back then follow up early enough for your guests to make travel arrangements. I really wish my Maid/Matron of Honor had let me know early, I would have been happy to make the call 🙁

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