Post # 1
I’m getting married in a couple of weeks, and I am 90% sure I know what my fiance is planning on giving me for a wedding gift. I know he has put a lot of thought into it, and it is fairly expensive but it’s just not me. Should I suck it up, smile and say thank you, or should I say something now before the day gets here? Typically he would want to know if I didn’t like something (he asked me a million times if I liked my engagement ring), but since I’m not supposed to know, I don’t know if I should say something. Help please!!
Post # 3
I know I would want to know, if my fiance didn’t like a present I was planning to give him. Especially if I could return it/change it for something that he did love.
How did you find out what he was planning? Was there any snooping involved?
Post # 4
I wasn’t snooping, well, not on purpose. We live together and share a computer. I went to go check my e-mail and he had a couple of websites up with the item. Then in conversation he said some things that pretty much confirmed it. When we were having this conversation, he did say, "I’m having second thoughts about your gift." I just don’t want to hurt his feelings.
Post # 5
Is there anything you know of that you’d really like, that you could subtly suggest to him? Something like "Oh, I found this gorgeous pair of earrings that would be perfect for my dress– I really wish I could afford them for our wedding…" (hint, hint)
If it was my fiance, and he’d already said he was having second thoughts about the gift, I’d probably just say something like "You know how you were having trouble figuring out what to do for my gift? I think it would be really romantic if you picked out a necklace I could wear on our wedding day. I saw some really pretty pearl ones at xyz shop up the street…"
Post # 6
I totally agre with what jhphi said. This way he is getting the idea of what you want without you coming out and telling him you know what he is getting you.
Post # 7
It just depends on what kind of guy he is. Can he handle you saying "Thanks for thinking of this, but it’s not really me?" My husband wants to know exactly what I want, so that he can spend our money on something I’ll use. He also hates to shop, so it works out for both of us!