(Closed) HELP!!! Have any bee's FIRED their WEDDING PLANNER??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I haven’t been through this, but I think that before you break the contract, you should talk with her. When you talk with her, DO NOT bring up canceling the services. If you do that, she’ll immediately start trying to figure out how to legally deal with you. To keep it civil, don’t mention that.

Just ask her is she feeling your wedding. Ask if she feels she has enough time for it and explain to her in a concerned, not angry, manner, some of the things you feel have fallen through the cracks. Let her know that you want to work with her, but you’re feeling that your wedding isn’t getting her full attention. Say you’d like to talk about it and see how you two can work together to change that.

Admit that you aren’t a bride but once, so  you may not know how it all works, but then express your concerns. You might find there’s more you need to communicate with her, or she might say BS stuff to make the talk go well. So while talking to her, just acknowledge to yourself silently when you hear BS and keep it in mind for your later overall decision. But if she has valid things to say, go with them.

If, after a talk like that, she can’t cut the mustard, you might need to figure out how to get out of it. But this approach is usually how bosses do with employees before firing them, so that’s why I suggest you do it this way. Still look out for yourself and find out if you can break the contrat, though. I’m just saying that while you’re doing that, find an amicable way to get what you need out of the lady.

Post # 4
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@txrodeo:  i would first contact her to say that youve found the exact furniture you want, and whilst you appreciate the contatc ifno for her vendor, you really want it to be these specific ones

i dont know if she got confused or was lazy. but it seems to me (not a legal expert by any means) you have to explain the problem and give her ten days to fix it before you can cancel the contract. and you can only cancel it if the problem isnt resolved.

so i would send her an email/letter saying – thats not the furniture you wanted and to please find the furniture you want rather than just using the usual vendor (maybe she thought you just wanted somethign similar). if she then doesnt, i think you have grounds

but i hear you, i dont feel that mine is doing as mcuh as i expected! i find myself finding all my own vendors

Post # 5
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Try to talk with her, firmly but politely, about how you’re feeling disappointed in her services. You’re paying a lot of money and deserve at least legit attempts to get you what you want. I don’t think you’ve asked for anything unreasonable here. Maybe she just doesn’t understand how important certain details are to you. Lots of people are lazy and will try to do less work, but if you push politely, you have a better chance of getting the results you want.

Post # 6
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I have been having problems with my wedding planner and haven’t heard from her in a well over two months so I understand your pain of not feeling listened to and I don’t have advice just the knowing that you arn’t alone

Post # 7
6355 posts
Bee Keeper

I hope there’s a yelp category (or equivalent) for wedding planners because these mentioned in this thread sound terrible and the idea that the bride is just stuck paying for this mediocre, at best, service, is so sad. I’m sorry you have to go through this.

The bad ones should be outed and weeded out. If they are are aware that a poor job could land them a poor public review, maybe they’ll try harder to do their job, or find a different career.

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