(Closed) Help! Having family issues…Wedding in Michigan or Elopement in Costa Rica???

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Wedding in Michigan or Elopement in Costa Rica


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  • Post # 3
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Elope!  Make your big day about what it’s supposed to be about… you and your Fiance.  Just make sure it’s what he wants, too.

    Either way, good luck!

    Post # 4
    2904 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We were encountering some issues like this with his family, too (he’s Christian, I’m Jewish, his mom’s brother is a minister).

    Then, they got over it.

    Have the original wedding.


    And I’m sorry you’re going through so much right now. It does get better.

    And congrats on finding such a good man and knowing it despite your family’s objections. It’s hard to see clearly through all that.

    Post # 5
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Your wedding needs to be about you… if you feel you’ll be in any way upset on your day because your family is not supporting you don’t have the family wedding.

    Talk to his family, and let them know why you’ve decided to do it this way.  if they’re as supportive as you say they will be understanding and probably agree this is best for YOU and your Fiance. 

    You’ll still have a reception at home when you get back so they can celebrate with you. 

    Post # 6
    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I just posted on your other post – btw, you only need to post it once it’ll show up on the “all posts” board.

    But here is what I said:

    Wow, I’m so sorry your family is being unsupportive of your decision. To me, that is one of the ultimate rude things you could do to a family member. If it were me, I’d elope in Costa Rica and enjoy your day for what it is, instead of having to worry about family, have family not show up because of “differences” and generally have a bad taste in your mouth. Make it about the only two people that matter in this relationship – the two of you.

    I think it’s crappy how they are choosing to act, to be quite blunt. I wish you the best of luck and happiness with this.

    Post # 7
    4136 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would invite fi’s immediate family and elope.

    Post # 8
    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Could you elope, but just with his immediate family present? I.e. a tiny destination wedding?

    I just want to reinforce to you that THEY are the ones in the wrong, not you.  IMO, what they are doing is very UNchristian. It’s judgmental, self-righteous, and uncharitable. 

    Post # 10
    2904 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @TiffanyH:don’t worry, he will come back to being interested–but he needs some time.


    Post # 11
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Structured religious worship does not equal spirituality. Your fiance could be extremely spiritual but disheartened by the reactions of those who are regular church attendees but, in your words, close-minded bigots.

    You should have the wedding you planned. Stand in front of the family and friends who support you and commit yourselves to eachother. Anyone who does not support you does not need to be there and, honestly, you wouldn’t want them there. Celebrate your love and be happy 🙂

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