(Closed) Help! Having family issues….Wedding in Michigan or Elopement in Costa Rica??

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Wedding in Michigan or Elopement in Costa Rica
    Michigan : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Costa Rica : (11 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 3
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Wow, I’m so sorry your family is being unsupportive of your decision. To me, that is one of the ultimate rude things you could do to a family member. If it were me, I’d elope in Costa Rica and enjoy your day for what it is, instead of having to worry about family, have family not show up because of “differences” and generally have a bad taste in your mouth. Make it about the only two people that matter in this relationship – the two of you.

    I think it’s crappy how they are choosing to act, to be quite blunt. I wish you the best of luck and happiness with this.

    Post # 4
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    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - The Royal Park Hotel

    Reading this made me so sad. 🙁 I’m terribly sorry that you’re going through such a difficult time. Weddings really do bring out the best and worst in people, and if these three women can’t be supportive and accepting of what sounds like a healthy, happy relationship–they’re not very good friends at all. I know that probably doesn’t take the sting out of it, but friendship should not be centered on personal beliefs. Rather, it should revolve around your acceptance (and appreciation) of others just the way they are.

    I agree with AmeliaBedelia: this day is about you and your Fiance. If getting married in Costa Rica is what will allow you to look back and smile upon in 20 years, go for it. It sounds like the rest of your family and friends who have been supportive all along will continue to do so even if you elope!

    Post # 5
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    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    TiffanyH, I am so sorry for your situation.  As someone who believes in their faith, I cannot ever imagine turning my back on a family member and it disheartens me to know there are people who I consider my “brothers and sisters in faith” who are treating your Fiance this way.  They are blinded by their own hate.

    I understand why you are struggling with this especially since you have such a supportive in-law family that would no doubt find great joy in seeing their son marry you.  I would go to your in-laws and bring up the subject of enlopement (I know, it goes against the idea of enloping, but hear me out) and ask for their blessing to be married in Costa Rica.

    The small ceremony on the shores of Lake MI sounds beautiful (I live close by and it’s GORGEOUS!) but a wedding is about the bringing together of family and unless you are completely comfortable with who would be there to witness your wedding, then maybe an enlopement is the best idea?  I would seriously sit on this issue, really think about it, meditate and pray on it and the true answer will come to you.

    I wish you the best of luck in reaching a decision, hugs!

    Post # 7
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @TiffanyH:  STOP!  I didn’t even have to finish.  What do you and your fiance want?  Forget about everyone else.  When you two are standing together professing to God and one another your dovotion to each other… who freaking cares who is in the room.  You have him and he has you.  I’m devastated that your family is behaving like this. 

    I will say that I eloped but just because people were being controlling.  We were thrilled with our choice.  Please do not let someones actions and opinions determine the path that you and your fiance decide to take to become husband and wife.  If you want a wedding at home, have it.  If you want to get away from everyone, then elope. 

    I wish you all the best in your decisions.  At the end of the day, who is by your side?  That’s the one that matters.  Just remember that.  And for the record… I say elope.  It’s about the two of you.  I think if you just go off on your own, you’ll have far less stress, and you can enjoy the moment far more.  Good luck to you.

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