(Closed) HELP! He cheated, wedding in 3 months.

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 48
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@belletear: I think you need to let this go hunnny! He hasn’t even physically cheated. I think he has more of a reason to call it off, because who would want the past dragged up every time u fight.

Post # 49
1643 posts
Bumble bee

OP–Have you ever thought about therapy or counseling? And not couples counseling. I’m not saying that you’re crazy or that something’s wrong with you. But you need to sit down and hash this out with a professional. We’re here for you on the bee, but you’re really strung out about this, and you need help.

Post # 51
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have no idea what you just said. Could you paraphrase or dot point it?

Post # 53
4369 posts
Honey bee

Who he was two years ago does not seem to be the person is he has evolved to be, today. The question is can you forgive him as the person he was two years ago, so that you can build a future with the person he is, today? I understand he hurt you, but do you think you’ll be happier without him? Forgiving doesn’t mean you have to forget, or that you can’t feel sad for what has happened. It means you value the tomorrows more than you do the yesterdays, and that you are willing to give up your anger and resentment for your future.

It sounds like your Fiance has grown up to be the kind of guy you are proud to marry and have with you now. I hope, for your sake and his, that you forgive and let go of that more immature person he was two years ago. We all hopefully learn from our pasts. You are not the same person you used to be either.

Post # 54
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@SoupyCat: Beautiful!  I really like this.  I hope the OP can take it to heart.

“The past is history; the future is a mystery; today is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.” — Unkown

Why let someone’s past self ruin your present?  And your future as well?

Post # 55
82 posts
Worker bee

HUGE mistake to running to his parents with the dirt on what he did 2 yrs ago. I don’t think there is a parent on this earth that wants to know the nasty of what their child (regardless of age) did or with whom etc.  His parents could take this all in and say, what, uh, in the first 3 months and well, you were dating, and well, that was in the past and there is a wedding in 3 months and you bring this all up NOW ?  If it were my kid, I’d probably tell them on the side, you need to really think this through, if she can’t let it go.    I’d think twice before you induldge them in this all.

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