(Closed) Help! He didn’t know he had to buy a wedding band.

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

If you can’t talk him into it, you could always buy it yourself…  πŸ™‚

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, men don’t get the jewelry thing, although I’ve taken my Fiance jewelry shopping with me enough times that I think he’s starting to get it. He says that I get a particular glow about my face when I look at jewelry πŸ™‚

Maybe if you threaten to buy it yourself he will cave. I did that once with a pair of earrings and it totally worked, and this is your WEDDING RING!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ouch – tough one. I understand where you’re coming from… I’m trying to talk my Fiance into letting me get two bands! 

However, with that being said – you do need a wedding band… so, make a compromise. Let him know that you would love a full eternity band, 1.0 carat, but then say you understand that it’s not necessary and let him know you’re compromising and will look at semi-eternity, 0.5 carat rings instead… that way you still get something you love, and you’re not spending as much!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Is there a particular reason why he resents this purchase so much? Is it just that he doesn’t want to shell out more money? Or is he just against the diamonds?

If it’s the diamonds, what about a matching pink sapphire eternity band?

My Fiance doesn’t understand jewelry either. He got me a bridal set, and really did not understand why I didn’t want to wear the wedding band right now. I compromised…wearing the band on the right hand.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Maybe he’s just afraid on how much it can cost?  If you show him the price difference between a plain heavy platinum band and an eternity band, do you think that would help?  I’m not sure exactly which ones you’re considering, but sometimes it’s a case of not that much more money.  Could you reduce the cost of a different portion of your budget, to make up for the extra spend?  For example, get a less expensive veil or other accessories?  Downgrade some of your paper products?  Eliminate any other unneccesary things?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Flip Flop: that’s so funny that he wants you to wear it now!  πŸ™‚ I would love it – i love my wedding band more than my engagement ring (which I of course love a ton!).  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Flip Flop: that’s so funny that he wants you to wear it now!  πŸ™‚ I would love it – i love my wedding band more than my engagement ring (which I of course love a ton!).  

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

My finace was pretty surprised that he had to get me a wedding band, too, after he shelled out all that money on the engagement ring ;). He doesn’t resent the purchase, though; he just asked me if he "has to" wear two rings, also!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Does he not know he’s supposed to buy a wedding band period (even a plain one)?  Or he doesn’t want to buy an eternity band?

Maybe he thinks he already spent lots on the engagement ring and doesn’t want to spend more on the wedding band.  Although it’s true that you will be wearing it forever and you should get what you want.  Maybe he thinks the ring is beautiful enough to stand on it’s own with a plain band?  Some guys are more practical and don’t seen the value in more bling. 

I was in sort of the same situation.  I really wanted an eternity band.  But Fiance didn’t want to spend our extra cash on that right now (our wedding is being paid for by our parents but we are planning on renovating our place and buying a new car) and I thought about it and I really don’t need more bling on my hands.  Marriage is a compromise and it’s important to listen to his concerns.  It’s so easy to get carried away with all the stuff we "want".

Good luck!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

When my boyfriend and I started talked about engagement rings he was completely clueless.

He thought he was suppose to buy me a small little ring as my engagement ring, and then when we get married buy me the big huge diamond ring.

I just explained to him that the engagement ring was suppose to be the big ring, and then I just got a small band as my wedding ring. Then he understood.

Men can be so clueless sometimes, I recommend just sitting down and explaining it to him.

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