(Closed) Help Help Help :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@futuremrs.gutierrez:  not really sure if you can do anything at this point, really. I think it would be in very poor taste to ‘fire’ them

Post # 4
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13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you’re in trouble, because it’s beyond rude to ask someone to not be in the bridal party after you’ve asked them.  I think you need to prepare to have some serious strain on your friendships if you plan on doing this.

Post # 5
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

How to tell others? There is no real way …You’re too late. It’s in poor taste to tell people you don’t want them to be a part of your bridal party anymore. 

Post # 6
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1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrs.gutierrez:  Hmmm, that is troublesome.  As PP’s have stated, it would be rude to ‘fire’ them, yes.  However, there is a LONG time between now and then, and anything related to what the bridal party would be doing for you:  ordering dresses, planning parties, etc.  Perhaps by then, it will work itself out, or kinda be ‘forgotten’, in that, when things get closer you can politely state the vibe for the wedding has changed, etc?!

I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a friend of mine whom got engaged 3 years ago – right after it happened, in fact.  Although I would still be one if/when they get married, the others she asked may not be bc their friendships changed.  The couple still do not have a wedding date, as things have come up, but I am guessing that when they do, those she asked 3 years ago would not be offended, nor really remember the offer per se…

Good Luck!!

Post # 7
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m afraid that you can’t remove people from your bridal party without looking terribly rude.  It would have been best to have waited until about a year out before asking the bridal party, but that ship has sailed.  Please be courteous and don’t ‘fire’ anyone.

Post # 9
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I understand that relationships change, but keep in mind how hurtful it would be if you asked them to step down.

People are often told “its your wedding, its all about you” but as soon as you involve others in your planning (like a bridal party) it ceases to be all about you.  Unless you plan on completely ending these relationships, I would advise you to keep the bridal party as it is.

Post # 10
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1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrs.gutierrez:  Hey…I do not want to be misunderstoond 🙂 I am not saying to verbally tell them to ‘step’ down 🙂  I am saying give it time.  You asked them, they accepted.  If in 2 years they are no longer around, or whatever, I am guessing they will not be the ones calling you to find out when they need to order their dresses!  However, if they remain an active part of your life, then things should remain as is! 

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