(Closed) Help help – the ettiquette police are after me!

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: wildstyle's destination wedding must haves so the etiquette police don't lock her up

    Out of town bags

    Favors

    Multiple wedding events paid for by the bride/groom

    Accomodations paid for by the bride/groom (not gonna happen but some people think we are paying!)

    Transportation (we are doing this but to and from the wedding venue only, not to the welcome party)

    Something else which I will explain

  • Post # 48
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Thank you for your post.  I was feeling like we weren’t doing enough, but we just can’t afford it.  We are paying for the wedding ourselves, so that is why we decided on a Destination Wedding.  People could choose if they wanted to come or not.  There are only 2 couples we have not heard from, but otherwise EVERYONE is coming! 🙂  Everything about our wedding is casual… Barefoot beach wedding ceremony (short, they are just going to gather around us in the sand) followed by dinner in an Irish Pub (known for its steaks).

    Before I even knew what an Out of Town bag was, I knew I wanted to provide a “packet” for the guests so they can get oriented and have a map and list of things to do and our favorite places to eat. 

    Now I am in the same sort-of dilemma.  People are now staying at different places…  We are not doing a welcome party, rehearsal dinner, any other hosted event other than the wedding.  We are letting everyone know where we will be throughout the weekend.  We are gathering at the outdoor bar on the beach next to the hotel we blocked, the night most people are getting in.  But not everyone is getting in then… so getting everyone one of these packets (or Out of Town Bags) may be challenging!

    We have all the info on our website, but I don’t think everyone will take the time to really look it over and print everything off.  And I think I’d rather give that to them anyway.  I had thought about mailing everyone a packet, but what if they forget it?

    I didn’t mean to hijack your thread!  I just found really great information here and a lot of good advice, so hoping maybe someone can give me some, too.

    P.S. I am in agreement that none of those items is necessary.  Although, I do worry that people will think that something should be provided.  I’ve just had to let things go and do what I want and am capable of doing!

    Post # 49
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    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Miss LittlestBird said it best: A WEDDING.  That shite ain’t free!

    Post # 50
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    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I don’t think any of those things are necessary.

    I actually don’t like receiving Out of Town bags…they’re just glorified favours that I now have to do something with (can you guess my stance on favours? :-p …unless they’re cookie or chocolate or other tasty treat…yum!)

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