- 5 years ago
Y’all… I need some words of encouragement/waiting advice/a reason not to lose it…
Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for six years now. We have talked about marriage and both want it with each other. Right now he is in law school and will graduate this May, then take the bar in July…so understandably, I don’t believe we will be engaged any time before then. Not to mention, he tells me he is saving up for a ring, and as he is in law school and does not yet have a job… well, he may be saving up for a while…
Anyway, while I am being very patient and understanding of the current circumstances and the reasons why I may have to wait a little longer… it has been six years… and everyone, and I mean EVERYONE else around us is getting engaged.
This past MONTH alone..
1. My neighbors that share the other half of the duplex
2. my roomate and her now fiance, which are in our immediate group of friends
3 my boyfriends’ brother and his now fiance, both in our immediate group of friends
4. my cousin
5. one of my college friends
6. another college friend, she and her fiance are in our immediate group of friends
7. another couple that is in our immediate group of friends
Basically, there has been an engagement every weekend, and there have even been two in the same weekend, and yes, even two of them happened on the same night (my roomate and our neighbor).
Now, all of our friends are talking about their weddings, and comparing rings, etc. etc.
Of course, now that everyone is getting engaged like a game of falling dominoes (literally!) I feel like I don’t want it to happen right now because I want ours to be special from everyone else’s… but It is almost becoming unbearable for me. Like yesterday, my roomates fiance, who is also a close friend, decided to school me on how much a wedding costs. And when my SO’s brother’s fiance, who is also a friend, called to ask for my address for an engagement party, she proceeded to elaborate on how exciting it was that EVERYONE is getting engaged, and also to talk about her ring and how large her diamond is…..I am holding it together like a champ in front of everyone, but inside, I am falling apart. My significant other and I have been dating years longer than 5 of these other couples…He is being very sweet and understanding… but really. This is getting out of hand….
Does anyone have ANY advice, or can share similar experiences? I need something!