Post # 1
You’ve always all been really good to me with advice so I’m back for a bit more.
I’m having a small wedding, only 34 to the ceremony. One of my two sisters and FI’s niece (5 yrs) are the only bridesmaids. My oldest sister is my dad for the day – doing the father of the bride speech. I have 4 other best friends. With only a small ceremony it seems silly to have 5 people traipsing down the aisle. Truthfully, I also can’t afford an additional 4 b/m dresses.
My 4 other friends are really, really important to me so much so that I want them to be a part of the wedding. I have asked one to do a reading….how else can I involve the other 3? How have you involved your friends in your weddings if they are not bridesmaids….?
Post # 3
We are having close friends help with ushering, being attendant(s) – reminding people to sign the guestbook, handing out bubbles (or whatever your choice), and handing out our programs.
One of my best, best friends and one of the best people I know will be my go to girl for the entire Rehearsal Dinner and the Day Of. She’ll kind of be like my Day of Coordinator but for free and with my utmost trust and respect. She will make sure everything is falling in place correctly, making sure we stick to the timeline and that our Wedding Day goes off without a hitch. I’m really excited about it, and actually — so is she:)
Post # 4
@ticatica: They could get ready with you in the morning, if it’s possible. I like Summy00’s suggestion of handing out order of service, organising the guestbook etc.
Post # 5
What if they were like bridesmaids … and wore something they already own … I don’t know your colors but every girl has a little black dress and shoes ..
just a thought!
EDIT: I love that your sister is stepping in for your Dad
Post # 6
I think they probably already feel special that they were invited to such a small ceremony.
I told my guests that they were off the hook for toasts/readings and they expressed relief that they wouldn’t have to do any public speaking. Perhaps you could make a small speech at some point and mention them specially.
I like the idea of them helping you get ready in the morning, but I am always a little baffled about why people feel they are giving their guests a special honour when they put them to work. Even if the tasks aren’t particularly onerous, I always thought it would be nicer for people to just be guests and get to talk with you and celebrate with you. I guess I understand the concept. It’s just not something I would personally volunteer for or feel slighted if I was left out of.
Post # 7
It’s really nice that you are making the big day about the important people in your life (as well as about you, hopefully!). My now-husband and I ran into the same problem, and we came up with:
Having two readings. One was a solo reading, and one was actually a dialogue. We were able to include two people with the dialogue.
One friend played guitar before the ceremony and for my walk down the aisle.
Our DJ was AWESOME, and actually let one of our friends introduce the bridal party at the reception!
I’m sure whatever you come up with will be great!
Post # 8
I’ve stolen your idea and asked 2 friends to do readings and i think another friend would adore to introduce us! Thank you for the ideas!
Post # 9
We’re planning to have: – 2 people doing readings – one person doing prayers – two witnesses for signing the register (don’t know if you need this?) – one person saying grace before the meal – a “master of ceremonies” to announce entrance of couple and speeches – maybe a couple of ushers to direct guests and hand out order of services
Post # 10
Hiya, thank you for replying! We do need witnesses but, it’s we’re having a civil ceremony. Fiance and I are getting married at the venue so they won’t allow religious readings/prayers etc. The problem is, all the organising etc is being done by his male friends! I’m currently still leaving out 2 friends!
Post # 11
We had less than 40 ppl. I had one Maid/Matron of Honor one of Bestie. I had 3 readers: 2 sisters and my Maid/Matron of Honor. My 91yr old Grandmother blessed our union while everyone held hands. My other Bestie was DOC(One of her gifts to us).
My other friends were able to give speeches since we had such a small group. That’s what I love about small intimate weddings, you can do what you want:)
Post # 12
@ticatica: I had the exactly the same problem but with 2 girls!we are having a civil ceremony too,and a small guest list (max 50) so im having them sign the register after the ceremony along with my mum and Fiance best man. In UK civil services I think you can have up to four people sign the register. It means theyre included but theyre not being asked to do too much (they are very introverted)
hope this helps!
Post # 13
Ah, didn’t spot that you were in the UK 🙂 so yes, you can have witnesses. Could you fit in a second non-religious reading? And maybe find a reception task for one of them (e.g. I’ve heard of some people having a person in charge of the guest book to make sure everyone signs it).