(Closed) HELP! How do I ask parents if their kids could be in my wedding??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is the best way to ask the parents if their children could be in my wedding?
    Call them! It might "put them on the spot" but at least it's a little more personal..) : (8 votes)
    38 %
    Text them! So they could have time to think about it first. : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Write a letter! Snail mail may be unusual these days, but maybe more personal than a text. : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Call and ask if they have a free day for me to stop by, then ask them in person. : (7 votes)
    33 %
    Call/Text and ask for their e-mail address, then send an e-mail. : (0 votes)
    Other... (Please leave a comment explaining!) : (3 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If you haven’t seen them in a year, I think its a little weird to ask them. It sounds like you haven’t even spoken to them in a year. I would use someone else as the flower children. But, if you still want to ask them, then do it in person.

    Post # 5
    Member
    46374 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would write a letter. It will give them time to think of the implications- time, money, travel etc without being put on the spot.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @lovelove1028:  If you still see the kids regularly, then I would send a nice card with a note explaining why you want them to be part of the wedding.

    Post # 7
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    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Honestly, I know you love these kids – but I think this might be a little weird. It seems like this was a strictly professional relationship btwn you and the family. If you haven’t remained a part of their lives (outside of school) I don’t really think it’s appropriate. Maybe just send them an invite for the whole family?

    Post # 9
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    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @lovelove1028:  No offense meant! Your OP made it seem as if your relationship had distanced, and maybe they were using a new babysitter now. But – it looks like they just haven’t used anyone in a while. Go ahead and do what makes you happy :-), you of course now the situation best! It’s hard to always understand from an outside (online) pov.

    Post # 10
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    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the best approach would be to make the request face to face (can you do it when the parents pick up the kids maybe?) and end with something like, “I don’t need an answer right now. Could I call you next Thursday, after you’ve had a chance to think and discuss it with Mr/Mrs Parent?”

     

    Post # 12
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    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wooo hooo!!! Happy for you!

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