(Closed) Help!! How do I keep track of bridal shower gifts!!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should write down and keep track of the bridal shower gifts when there's no bridesmaids?

    The bride

    The FMIL

    The FSIL

    Other (please explain!!)

  • Post # 3
    7582 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @eimajleigh: I would ask the Future Sister-In-Law, however you Future Mother-In-Law may already have a plan. I wouldn’t worry about it too much, it should all work out.

    Post # 4
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think it would be really awkward for you to be taking notes as you open presents–it wouldn’t really be possible to do it surreptitiously and it would cause a delay…it would just be weird.

    As the party hostess, I feel it’s your FMIL’s responsibility to do this. When I hosted FSIL’s shower, I was the one to make the list.  Plus, it sounds like she’s the one who will know people’s names.

    Also…A bridal shower without a bride? She sounds a little crazy…

    Post # 5
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    That’s definitely not something you should have to do. I would say your Future Mother-In-Law should keep track for you.

    Post # 6
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Your Future Mother-In-Law should keep track of gifts. To make it easier for you and her or whomever she delegates to the task, make a chart with plenty of room. 


    I did mine in word and used the create table function to make a sheet that had a space for the guests name and then a spot for the gift beside it. I did 2 tables per page with 5 guests per so 10 a page. Made it easier. 


    You could also write the gifts on the back of each card. I did that afterwards so I could remember later on down the road. 

    Post # 7
    6 posts
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Are there any friends coming that you could ask? Your Future Mother-In-Law might feel somewhat slighted if you ask her, especially if she is the one hosting the party.  She might want to be involved in and enjoy the opening process! If no family friends or friends of yours or your Fiance will be there, I would ask the Future Sister-In-Law.  

    Post # 9
    47383 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would ask the Future Sister-In-Law. The FMIl is the hostess and she may have to be in and out of the room while gifts are being opened.

    You can create a spreadsheet as mentioned above, that will list the giver and the gift.

    She should also make a quick note of the gift on the back of the gift cards as a double check.

    Post # 11
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Someone should step up and offer to do this.  I know I have offered at showers when there were not many bridesmaids.  The person could just write on each card what the present is so that it is not necessary to know every single guest.

    Post # 12
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Since your Maid/Matron of Honor won’t be there, I’d ask your Future Mother-In-Law to keep track.  Your Future Sister-In-Law might not know all of your FMIL’s friends if they aren’t close enough to be invited to the wedding.

    Post # 13
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted for “the bride” before I read the post (sorry!) so chalk up 1 more vote for either the Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law.

    ps- Seriously?? Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds like a real peach…

    Post # 14
    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    my Future Mother-In-Law held a shower for me in her town which my mom, Future Sister-In-Law, and I attended but was otherwise her friends. We did invite them all to the wedding but we knew 90% wouldn’t come – it was an excuse for a party and for showing off future daughter in law. A little different from your case from what you are saying. Anyway, my mom didn’t know anybody either but she sat next to me and took notes. Future Mother-In-Law printed a list for us of who was attending and when I read the card my mom simply picked the name from the list. I really liked including my mom in that way. I also had a second shower closer to home with “my people” and at that one my mom was social butterfly sitting with her friends and my Maid/Matron of Honor took the notes.

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