(Closed) HELP! How do you (politely) kick a bridesmaid out of your wedding?????

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think there really is a way to do it without hurting any feelings :/ Maybe just explain to her that now with them being broken up it would be a little uncomfortable. Will she still be able to attend the wedding?

Post # 4
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really don’t think that you can do it without hurting her feelings and possibly hurt the relationship with her.  Just be honest with her and hope she understands.

Post # 6
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Why did you have her in your wedding party if you aren’t even friends with her? I personally believe you have your closest friends/family stand up beside you on your wedding day. Sorry, I am actually kind of curious.

Honestly, her feelings are going to be hurt, and they are going to be double hurt when she realize that she is no longer invited to the wedding. Basically explain the situation as nicely as possible and see where it goes from there. That is really all you can do.

Good luck.

p.s: she maybe looking for a way out because he ex is going to be there. if that is the case then maybe she’ll be happy to get out of it.

Post # 7
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry but why in the world did you ask someone who you aren’t really “friends” with to stand up with you at the wedding? I am not trying to be rude but I too am curious as to what lead you to ask her? 

Post # 8
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t get why she is in your wedding party in the first place? 

I am sure she thinks it is just as awkward as you do and will be thankful for the out! So just explain that you the situation and I am sure she will understand. I don’t really know why you asked her or she accepted when you aren’t really friends anyway so I think it will be a non-issue!

Post # 9
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m pretty sure she would understand… if she was just an acquaintance, then I’m sure she sees it coming, as it would be awkward for her too since they have broken up.  I would just be straight up with her, say you asked her because she was with ____ at the time, but now it would be awkward to have her in the party and him in the party since they are no longer together.  I’m sure she will understand.  If I were in her position, I wouldnt want to be in it anymore either.

Post # 10
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, I am in a similar situation. The best man and his wife (a BM) are having some serious issues. I don’t know her all that well but she has been helpful. She is my Fiance cousin in law and they are all close. It never occured to me to ask her to step down. I wouldn’t even think of it unless it was unsafe for them. I think you have to ask yourself if they can get along for a day and how much has she invested in being in your wedding before you kick her out.

Post # 11
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am surprised she hasn’t offered to withdraw from the bridal party.  Does she already have a dress?

Post # 12
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would try asking if she would like to step down. Liek sceder said, maybe she’s looking for a way out?

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