- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
Thanks for your opinions ladies! I think I was just having a day yesterday. in the realm of importance wedding wise, it’s not about the day, it’s about everything AFTER that day that matters. Sometimes it’s hard not to get caught up in the moment about every little detail, and I find myself having to reign myself in, reminding myself, I'[m not planning this wedding for everyone else.
As far as the whole nail thing, I don’t care if they get their nails done or not. I just thought it would be nice to relax the day before. We are all mom’s and get very little tine to do so. I really like the opinions of the robes. I never thought of it that way. I don’t want them to feel like it is a prop and I’m trying to dress them up. I think I may go the jewelry route, that way it is something they could wear after the wedding. Very good ideas.
I guess my real annoyance yesterday, that one of my bridesmaids used to BE a wedding planner. I was going to meet with someone about help planning my wedding, because I’m just not really good at it. I feel overwhelmed. So, before I was about to schedule a first appointment with this lady, I asked my friend any insider questions I should ask this planner, to make sure I get someone who is good, and has experience. She told me not to waste the money on someone, and that she would help me with everything. And she has yet to do so. I can’t even get a recommendation for a florist our of her. I left that part out last night. I was just a big, pity party ball of emotion last night. So, I think that is where this all stems from.
I totally agree that a gift is not supposed to be based on anything but what you want to do without any strings attached. The only thing they have honestly responded to me about, or showed interest in, was the bachelorette trip, that my dad offered to pay for. So since I had been trying to just have coffee with them to catch up on life, ask them some opinions, and get radio silence, but then they were all about an all exspense paid trip, it made me feel a little used and taken advantage of. I know that is not the case, and that they are just excited for that, but I just wished they would’ve showed some excitement about the other stuff. Please keep in mind I haven’t really talked to them much about the wedding, just that they could pick whatever they wanted dress wise, and left it at that. I guess that’s why I just felt that way. I’m not being annoying, and in NO WAY do any of them know I felt the way I did last night. I believe I just had a weak moment.
So yeah, I feel a little bit better, and I appreciate you all knocking some sense into me. I should never base a gift on what I feel someone has done for me, or will do for me. I know better. I just got wrapped up into these crazy wedding hormones.
What gift other than jewelry, would you all really like to get? Do you think a gift certificate for them and their significant others, with me offering to babysit their child(ren) would be good? For after the wedding, obviously. Everyone needs a date night, right? I just want to get something that they will really love, and be like oh this is AWESOME!