- 5 years ago
I am in need of some help. Since my wedding is in Germany and not a church wedding, I will not be having any bridesmaids. However, I will need to choose a witness, which probably is the equivalent of a Maid/Matron of Honor. My dilemma: I’ve got 3 contestants for this job. The job of the witness also includes to plan pretty much everything happening during the wedding day (i.e. which speech at what time, games, the hen night, etc.). So there is some work associated with the assignment of being the witness. You probably should be quite good at organising as well and responsible enough not to get wasted when you actually have to tell people to hold a speech, do their games, and what not.
So, I will be the witness of one of my best friends (lets call her N) next year. I love N to bits but she is definitely not the fastest and not the most organised plus she has ZERO knowledge of weddings (I am not sure, she’ll manage to plan her own wedding on time next year). I do feel kinda obliged to take N as my witness, as I will be her witness and we are pretty close.
On the other hand, I’ve got friend G. G is the sweetest girl in the world and we’ve been through sooooooo much together. When I need advice, I would go to her. However, G. hasn’t got any wedding experience either. She definitely is way more organised than N. And as I said, she is very very close to my heart.
And then there is Super Girl Friend S. She has been doing the job of the witness for many many times, is a perfectionist and knows exactly what she will have to do. We’ve been through a lot together as well, when we lived far away from home in the same city and have been supporting each other a lot. She said, she would happily do the job (she is the only I told my dilemma regarding the witnesses) but also assured me, she wasn’t going to be offended, if I chose one of the other girls. She will start a new, very demanding job in September and will be in a new place all on her own again. She is know to be quite sensitive and has depressive-like episodes.
So my question to you is: what should I base my decision on? Friendship? If so, since I don’t have a BFF, all these 3 girls are equally close to my heart, what would that entail? If I could have 3 witnesses, they’d be chosen instantly. Should I base my choice on their organisation skills? I seriously feel like I am not able to choose one over the other. What would you base your decision on? How did you choose your MOH?