- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I have no idea what to do and hoping someone can help. I chose 4 bridemaids. One of them is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I sent an email out at the start letting them know my Maid/Matron of Honor would be unavailable to help much if at all due to stuff in her life, but I still wanted her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. With that said, I had hoped the other 3 would get along, but it appears they are not. One if my to be sister in law. I do not know all of what is going on, but getting bits and pieces and it is making me embarrased that these people are supposed to be my friends, and more importantly I just wanted to say forget the shower or bachelorette party or whatever else. I am so hurt by what little i know, I am not sure what to do. I am a simple person, and have told them clearly I do not want anything elaborate, keep it simple and easy. Somehow it has turned into everyone fighting and being nasty and resentful and I just want to tell them all to screw it. I hate this. The wedding planning is all done, did not even need their help really at all, we did it ourselves. I picked a dress style and color that was cheap and all of them love and have plans to rewear I know it is my day, but there have been very few things I felt like I had to have at this wedding, and the rest would try to make it work if I could with whatever. Why can’t the girls communicate and keep it simple and quit fighting? What can I do since I do not know all the details? I also have told the girls I wanted them there the day before as the bridal party is to be at a ceremony we have at our place of worship the day prior, and the one first got upset because that ceremony interferred with what she wanted to do that Sat, not sends me an email stating she won’t be there because she has to pick someone up from the airport instead, something someone else could do, but she just does not want to go to something we have said from the beginning was important to us. This is the same one who omitted my mother and another bridal party pacticipant from the email list for some unknown reason. My wedding is in 70 or so days, so it is not far away. This is just really starting to upset me, but since they are all in different areas it is not like i can just call a meeting to get things out in the open. Anyone have any ideas on how to handle all of this? Help!!