Post # 1
Every year my family decides to have a reunion. Our family is huge and to be honest we’re really not that close. I’m close to some, but not a lot. My mom and I went to our family reunion a couple years ago, and it was terribly boring and awkward. We figured out we don’t have a lot in common with most of them, so we decided we weren’t going back for a while.
Well for whatever reason, my mom is all about going this year. I’ve tried to tell her it’s going to be incredibly awkward when we’re standing in a big group and someone says, “I got your save the date in the mail a few weeks ago! It’s so adorable! I can’t wait!” Then I can just picture someone else saying, “Why didn’t I get one?”
SO how do I respond to that? I’m really considering not going to the reunion at all. I don’t like awkward situations, and I don’t want to be rude. Plus we have them every year!
Our wedding is about 10 hours from where we live. It’s in a very small town, so I could just say we’re having a small wedding, but I don’t know. I’ve never been good with words and being put on the spot, so I don’t think this is going to work out for me.
HELP!! Would you go to the reunion or skip it this time? If you say I should go, how would you handle the questions? And what kind of things should I expect people to say?
Post # 3
If you go just say something along the lines of budget having control over the guest list. Just say unfortunately we couldnt invite everyone we would have liked to.
Post # 4
i am the same as you and with that particular situation, i might not go at all.
or maybe there is some way to avoid wedding talk before it even starts. you would probably have to be pro active in steering the conversations before they can even bring up STDs!
or depending how many you did invite, bring it up first with those people and explain that you dont want to talk about it at the reunion since you were not able to invite everywhere – i can picture that working if you invited a select few that you are genuinely close with.
Post # 5
Go with this “oh what was your name again?”
Post # 6
Normally, I’m all about transparency and accountability, but dude. Ten hours, you’re not that into it… just make sure if your mom goes she knows the party line is “It’s a very small wedding and some REALLY tough choices had to be made. We weren’t able to invite some of the people we love most in the world!”
Post # 7
Just say that the wedding is small. Then move on. I love family reunions. There are some family members that I don’t know, but they are family. They won’t be getting a wedding invite, but I know they won’t be hurt.
Post # 8
Or treat them like they are kidding. “oh Bob you are such a kidder” because of course no one would ever be so rude as to ask about an invitation, that would be so impolite (dripping with sarcasm, of course people are so bold).
I don’t think people will ask much.
Post # 9
Ah! I feel like the “right” way to handle it is to go and just be diplomatic or like @PurpleUnicorn suggested, if feasible, take those few who are invited aside.
But as for me, I feel like I would end up wimping out and skipping :).