(Closed) HELP: How to handle “Am I invited?” at our family reunion TOMORROW?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I go to the reunion?
    Go - but be prepared to answer the awkward questions : (12 votes)
    55 %
    Don't go - You'll have plenty more to attend : (10 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If you go just say something along the lines of budget having control over the guest list. Just say unfortunately we couldnt invite everyone we would have liked to.

    Post # 4
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    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i am the same as you and with that particular situation, i might not go at all.

    or maybe there is some way to avoid wedding talk before it even starts.  you would probably have to be pro active in steering the conversations before they can even bring up STDs!  

    or depending how many you did invite, bring it up first with those people and explain that you dont want to talk about it at the reunion since you were not able to invite everywhere – i can picture that working if you invited a select few that you are genuinely close with.

    Post # 5
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Go with this “oh what was your name again?”

    Post # 6
    Member
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Normally, I’m all about transparency and accountability, but dude. Ten hours, you’re not that into it… just make sure if your mom goes she knows the party line is “It’s a very small wedding and some REALLY tough choices had to be made. We weren’t able to invite some of the people we love most in the world!”

    Post # 7
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Just say that the wedding is small. Then move on. I love family reunions. There are some family members that I don’t know, but they are family. They won’t be getting a wedding invite, but I know they won’t be hurt.

    Post # 8
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    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    Or treat them like they are kidding.  “oh Bob you are such a kidder” because of course no one would ever be so rude as to ask about an invitation, that would be so impolite (dripping with sarcasm, of course people are so bold). 

    I don’t think people will ask much.

    Post # 9
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    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Ah! I feel like the “right” way to handle it is to go and just be diplomatic or like @PurpleUnicorn suggested, if feasible, take those few who are invited aside.

    But as for me, I feel like I would end up wimping out and skipping :).

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