(Closed) Help! How to include helpful friends who aren't bridesmaids.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

If you don’t want to add them as bridesmaids just write them a very heartfelt thank you note before the wedding for their help and perhaps mention them specifically in speeches for their diy help? 

Post # 3
47414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jackiemargot:  You could ask them to do a reading. You could acknowledge them in a speech at the reception and/or include them in your programs.

Post # 4
184 posts
Blushing bee

Have them do a reading! Thats what were doing with our cousins. one is in the army and hes like my little brother but wasn’t sure if he could 100% make it so we couldnt make him a Groomsmen without knowing his schedule so I told him if he can make it, that’s how I wanted him to be apart of the day.  and two of my Fiance cousins who are much younger kind of automatically assumed they were in the wedding. But with a huge wedding party, there is nowhere to put them. So we decided to give them something to read together.

Post # 5
3584 posts
Sugar bee

I plan to make my sister a host for when people walk in and my niece to carry the rings.

Post # 6
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

readings are great, having them hand out favors or programs could be nice, and get them corsages!  we are not having a dedicated wedding party, only honoraries, so I am working on corsage/boutonniere ideas for them, so they still feel like part of the action. 

Post # 8
2422 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You can hsve them do a reading in your ceremony.

Post # 9
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I have seen this idea on other threads, call them your assistants. Sound that is what they have been doing so far. The corsage idea is perfect

Post # 10
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA


I also have 2 really great friends who will be helping coordinate things on my wedding day. I’m treating them to getting their hair done, and they can get their makeup done as well. Theyll be spending the morning with me and the bridal party and are getting special shirts to wear to get ready with us & everything. I totally would have had them as bridesmaids, but Fiance only had 4 guys he wanted to stand with us and didnt like the idea of uneven sides. The girls are ok with not being bridesmaids bc they havent had to deal with the drama or buying a dress & get to sit wiht their husbands lol but they still get to spend the fun times with us!

Post # 11
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian


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jackiemargot:  I think paying for their room is a lovely idea, as well as the corsage. I think that plus just a sincere thank-you (not or face to face) gets the job done. You could also always throw in a bottle of champagne if you want to do something else 🙂

Post # 12
4888 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve been a personal attendent for a friend who had 5 BMs and then 3 PAs. We basically helped the bride out all day, although one was mainly there to take candid photos while the photographer did their professioanl thing. 3 was too much, but the two of them would be great.

I know some may consider them the brides bitch, but I felt honored… and she wasn’t demanding at all. It was very laid back.

Post # 13
4810 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a friend like this, and we invited her to rehearsal dinner (and thanked her publicly there) and gave her a corsage for the wedding (as well as a thank you card).

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