Post # 1
We have two close friends who have been SUPER helpful in the wedding. They were there for me when the fiance and I briefly broke up 2 years ago and we get together often but I’ve already got 7 bridesmaids for a 150 person wedding that I’ve known significantly longer and am closer to. These two ladies are SUPER helpful – they’ve started email folders for us and are helping with all the DIY decor. One is even hand drawing our invites! We’d like a great way to include them in our wedding – how can we honor them or should I just suck it up and have 8-9 bridesmaids? We’re inviting 60 friends + 90 of our parents friends.
Post # 2
If you don’t want to add them as bridesmaids just write them a very heartfelt thank you note before the wedding for their help and perhaps mention them specifically in speeches for their diy help?
Post # 3
jackiemargot: You could ask them to do a reading. You could acknowledge them in a speech at the reception and/or include them in your programs.
Post # 4
Have them do a reading! Thats what were doing with our cousins. one is in the army and hes like my little brother but wasn’t sure if he could 100% make it so we couldnt make him a Groomsmen without knowing his schedule so I told him if he can make it, that’s how I wanted him to be apart of the day. and two of my Fiance cousins who are much younger kind of automatically assumed they were in the wedding. But with a huge wedding party, there is nowhere to put them. So we decided to give them something to read together.
Post # 5
I plan to make my sister a host for when people walk in and my niece to carry the rings.
Post # 6
readings are great, having them hand out favors or programs could be nice, and get them corsages! we are not having a dedicated wedding party, only honoraries, so I am working on corsage/boutonniere ideas for them, so they still feel like part of the action.
Post # 7
jackiemargot: oh thank you for the suggestions! love the corsage idea – let everyone know they’ve done something special 🙂 we were also going to pay for their room…we’re going to have a traditional jewish ceremony with a rabbi – i’m not sure if “our people” do readings or not – total newbie here and first of my good friends to get married (also trying to keep the ceremony short because i’m a cryer)
Post # 8
You can hsve them do a reading in your ceremony.
Post # 9
I have seen this idea on other threads, call them your assistants. Sound that is what they have been doing so far. The corsage idea is perfect
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
I also have 2 really great friends who will be helping coordinate things on my wedding day. I’m treating them to getting their hair done, and they can get their makeup done as well. Theyll be spending the morning with me and the bridal party and are getting special shirts to wear to get ready with us & everything. I totally would have had them as bridesmaids, but Fiance only had 4 guys he wanted to stand with us and didnt like the idea of uneven sides. The girls are ok with not being bridesmaids bc they havent had to deal with the drama or buying a dress & get to sit wiht their husbands lol but they still get to spend the fun times with us!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
jackiemargot: I think paying for their room is a lovely idea, as well as the corsage. I think that plus just a sincere thank-you (not or face to face) gets the job done. You could also always throw in a bottle of champagne if you want to do something else 🙂
Post # 12
I’ve been a personal attendent for a friend who had 5 BMs and then 3 PAs. We basically helped the bride out all day, although one was mainly there to take candid photos while the photographer did their professioanl thing. 3 was too much, but the two of them would be great.
I know some may consider them the brides bitch, but I felt honored… and she wasn’t demanding at all. It was very laid back.
Post # 13
I had a friend like this, and we invited her to rehearsal dinner (and thanked her publicly there) and gave her a corsage for the wedding (as well as a thank you card).