(Closed) HELP!!! I already have dress how do i tell mom???

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
110 posts
Blushing bee

Just be honest.  When she mentions dress shopping I would tell you you’ve already bought one.  I also think you should let her see it.  I can understand not showing everyone in your family but it might help lessen the blow if she can still feel involved.

Post # 4
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Take her shopping.  I think she just wants the experience of doing it with her daughter.  Maybe you could even go to the same dress shop and “pick” out the one you already chose.

Post # 5
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would fess up about it, but to make her feel more involved, I would ask her to help you accessorize. I know it would be cool to walk into the ceremony with no one knowing what your dress looks like, but she’s your mom :). I would let her in on it so she can feel more involved in the wedding.

Post # 6
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

don’t go dress shopping just to make her feel better. you’ll end up with dress regret and spending a lot of money on a second dress.

her feelings will probably be hurt – dress shopping is something moms look forward to! you need to show her the dress. i know you said you don’t want anyone to see it, but your fi has already seen it, and she’s your mom. you can go shopping for accessories together.

Post # 7
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I went shopping by myself, and bought my dress by myself… and I still think that mom felt slighted. My mom’s not a “girly girl” so I didn’t really think twice about it… I had her come to my fitting instead when I realized she was sad though…

Post # 8
2025 posts
Buzzing bee

I would just tell her and then take her to show her the gown. That way you guys can shop together to find a MOB dress for her to wear that will compliment yours.

If she asks, just say you got a really good deal on it and had to move quickly. A small white lie like this will pass over much better than completely omitting the fact that you’ve already selected your gown.

Post # 10
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Just a heads up.  The shows are not reality.  Participants are encouraged to yuck it up for the camera and that means gagging on dresses or telling a bride she looks heinous.  You know your mom better than us and whether the shopping trip would be difficult.  If it is not, go shopping and re-pick your dress.  She will appreciate the involvement (if it is something she wants).

Post # 12
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would probably ask her to help you shop for some other things, like shoes and jewelry. It won’t make up for her not getting to go dress shopping, but at least she’ll be involved in something.

Post # 14
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

So when you say you dont want anyone to see your dress b4 the wedding, does that include your mom too? Personally I think going dress shopping just to please her n pretending to pick a new dress or even the same dress is bit too deceptive.

Post # 15
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eek, I do not know what to tell you. If you figure out a good plan let me know. My mother doesn’t care too much for dress shopping, but I am the only female on my mom’s side of the family, so all the ladies have already claimed spots on the shopping trips. Not quite sure how to tell them I want to make it myself….

I am actually in the stage a faux shopping trip. Plan it so you “find” your dress on it, but tell her you want to order it closer to home. And try on NOTHING you might love more. Or try on ones you for sure rejected your firs time out. 

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