Post # 1
This is something thats been on my mind for a while, When i went to try on dresses i thought i liked it.. its pretty its the mermaid style i wanted and everyone agreed.( Although i never got that “bridal moment” where you feel like you cant take the dress off) It was the only store i visited, now that i think about it i should have visited other stores as well. sO I Got the Mori lee dress dont get me wrong its a very-very pretty dress.. but after looking at different weddings on the net.. trying to build my inspiration board i got a clear picture of the dress i always wanted ( lace and thick sattin). Even before dress shopping i had fallen in love with the Alvina Valenta 8569 dress.. but sadly its from her 2006 line so i knew i would never have the dress :(! But the cold feet about my dress have been at me for a while and finally the other day i said it outload making it a reality.. i told my fiance and my mom. My mom thinks that i just need to stop looking at all those weddings which are confusing me! But i dont feel like they have.. i feel like they have just allowed me to realize what i always wanted. I guess its pretty late in the game since im 4 months away from the wedding, the Mori lee dress has been bought and altered to fit me i pick it up next week. But i found a pre-owned alvina valenta on the web and now im debating whether i should just take the plunge and purchase it?? Knowing that i wont get all the money i spend on the Mori lee?? I cant get this out of my head!! Have any of you EVER had cold feel about your s dress? Have any of you gone ahead with the change??
This is The Mori Lee
and this is my dream dress the Valenta
Post # 3
You only get married once. Do you think you’ll regret it forever if you don’t have your dream dress? If so, I would go for it. You can sell your Mori Lee to recoup some of the costs. Are there other parts of the wedding that you could cut back on to make up some of the difference? I don’t always love my dress. Sometimes I hate it. But I don’t have a dream dress and I know that whatever happens I’ll be self-critical about it, so I definitely would never get a different one. I just try to concentrate on loving the dress I have and remember how I felt in it. You must have bought it for some reason. . . sorry, kind of rambly. Bottom line, if you think you’ll be truly unhappy if you don’t and you have the finances to do it, get your dream dress.
Post # 4
Yes! I am also a September bride and I have thought about other dresses as well and have had dress regret. There are so many wedding dress options out there and that makes it hard to stop looking and thinking about other dresses. It very common to feel that way. I think you look stunning in your Mori Lee. The other dress is also gorgeous. You will look amazing in either one.
What it really comes down to is what is going to make you happy. If you will really be happy getting the Valenta dress and you can afford to eat the cost of both then do it. But if you decide to stay with your Mori Lee then I would stop looking at wedding dresses. That is what I finally had to do. That has made it a lot easier.
Post # 5
@Leesh: exactly! great advice…
Post # 6
@kventures: OMG. so that is the SAME dress I have!!!! and I posted the same thing about cold feet like 3 minutes before you. That is just weird.
haha it looks totally different on us. I removed my flower but that’s about it . Funny how the same dress can look so different on different people.
I think it’s beautiful, and I have decided to stick with it.
I think you look great in it.!! If you have the money I suggest you buying the other one, and trying them both on. Or finding the other dress in a boutique where you can try it on. You may find out it isn’t all you thought it was.
I looked through a million pics one the internet and had a picture of the dress I wanted. Once I went to the bridal shops I realized what I thought I wanted was not at all what I wanted. Pictures are so deceiving and you don’t really know until you try the dress on.
IMO- (( which I am slightly biased haha. )) keep the mori lee it’s gorgeous.
Post # 7
I have to agree (as a previously 2-dress bride) that if you are unhappy with your dress, find one you love. But, once you find one, don’t keep looking! I purchased my first gown and continued to daydream about one I had tried on before that gown – why I didn’t buy, I dunno. So I went back and ate my deposit on the first dress (sample) and ordered the second. Cost me a couple hundred, but I’m happier.
That being said – I think the first picture is gorgeous! You look fantastic in it!
Post # 8
In my opinion, the second one is pretty. But, the first one is GORGEOUS. And you look AMAZING in it. I think it has more going on and a wow factor for me. I just bought my dress yesterday, and I think looking and daydreaming about what else is out there is what kept me from just plunging and ordering that one. Remember the reason why you bought the dress you did (besides the fact you look TERRIFIC in it!)
Post # 9
My date twin! Gosh the Alvina dress is beautiful, just STUNNING! I think you have to go for it, otherwise you’re going to be eternally sad!
Post # 10
Yup and that’s what im afraid of, that if I don’t purchase it I wont feel like that beautiful bride on the day of. The Material on my dress just feels wrong.. And the color.. I always new I wanted more of an ivory color but everyone just kept telling me how the color on the Mori Lee was perfect so I just pushed my doubts aside! Ugg I feel like im going to have an anxiety attack lol
Post # 11
@kventures: do you have to sell the Mori to afford the other one? I think it would be best if you could try them both on , back to back. What if you buy this dream dress and you hate it , after selling the Mori lee?
and I ‘m sorry if you saw my post first and it worsened your dress doubt :(.. you are the 2nd person I’ve seen with this dress other than me .
Post # 12
This is why I always recommend that brides wait until just 6-7 months before buying their dresses!
I was a 3 dress bride, so I’m not going to tell you not to buy the AV. However, make sure it is in your budget without selling the Mori Lee. It is very difficult to sell a dress, unless it is a very expensive designer, unaltered, unworn and for a great price. If you do sell it and/or sell the AV afterward, consider that good luck but do not make it part of your financial equation.
I love the ML on you, but I definitely know how dress regret feels!
Post # 13
@Georgia Bee: I actually put the down on my dress in Feb which would be at the 6 month mark. I was just trying to avoid the going from store to store ordeal.. and went with the first pretty dress that my mom and sis agreed to. Luckly the Mori lee dress is un-altered per say it is hemmed … but nothing was done to the dress. I can buy AV with my savings.. ( savings that i was putting aside just in case) Im wondering is this momment is my just in case? lol
Post # 14
@kventures: Yes, I started shopping exactly 6 months to the day and still ended up with 3 dresses:) Similar situation–I wanted to buy while my mother was in town and rushed everything into one weekend. Made one bad decision, then panicked and made another one. Hemming is not a bad alteration unless you are really short (like me). Most brides can adjust with heel heights or more hemming. If you can swing it, get the AV!
Post # 15
Your gown is gorgeous, but so is the AV. Follow your gut on this! No regrets. 🙂
Post # 16
I say go with what you want. But i LOVE the one you already have! its a beautiful dress!!!