Post # 1
My fiance and I are on a budget and although I was hoping for a beautiful $60k diamond ring, I don’t want to put financial pressure on him to get such a ring. I have been researching moissanite, and I am looking for a larger stone 4 carats or so, OVAL design. I have read about many moissanite companies online and can’t seem to figure out which company creates a moissanite stone that closely resembles a diamond. I want to have a beautiful setting made and will hopefully replace it with a real stone in the near future g-d willing. Please share with me your experiences especially if your Moissy is on the larger side. I am familiar with the hardness of moissanite, what I am concerned about is its color and clarity. I really need something that doesn’t sparkle more than a diamond, I need something that would look legit. Please, no judgment! I am trying to make the best of this situation.
Post # 2
smallbudgetbigdreams : Moissanite is going to look different than a diamond, especially at that size. Moissanite Co has videos of their rings here:
I would suggest checking out lab grown or heirloom diamonds, as they can be cheaper than new, earth-mined diamonds. Diamonds are diamonds, whether they’re used or not. You can also reset a stone from a pre-owned ring. Although any stone in that size range is going to be more expensive. Also, go for like 3.89 carats or something weird, rather than 4.00
What is your specific budget? You’re talking about $60,000 vs like $3,000 and there’s a lot of space between the two.
If you’re concerned about it looking like a diamond or being judged for getting moissanite instead, I think trying to pass a large moissanite off as a diamond will appear worse in that respect.
Post # 3
I would suggest, if you really want the diamond like look go for an emerald cut or another step cut. Round brilliants are made to emphasize the sparkle, which while nice, is not diamond like. Emerald and step cuts don’t refract as much and therefore look quite a bit more like diamonds.
Post # 4
But if you really want a round center stone, get a hearts and arrows cut Moissanite. Very diamond like. Stay away from round brilliant if you want it to look like a diamond.
Post # 5
It’s not going to look like a diamond at that size. I can tell you this as someone who has one of both.
Secondly, if you don’t have the kind of lifestyle that could afford a $60k ring no one will believe it’s a diamond.
Post # 6
There are plenty of big, beautiful diamond rings for under $60,000. What carat size were you looking for?
Post # 7
Wait, you’re just going to “replace it with a real stone”?
……then just get a diamond. A $60k ring? Why not buy a house instead? You can get a perfect Tiffany engagement set at $20k!
Post # 8
smallbudgetbigdreams : If you’re currently on a budget, I would have to assume that if you come up with $60K anytime soon it should be used for something other than a diamond ring.
Post # 9
A 4-carat ring is HUGE and excessive. Especially if you can’t easily afford it. What size is your finger? If you’re a larger size, I might can see why you’d want a stone that big, but if you’re average-petite in sizing it’s going to look ridiculous. That said, we can’t really give you great advice without knowing your budget. I will say, it would be more worth your while to have a nice cut, clarity, and the color you want than just basing things around the size. Everyone sacrifices somewhere with their ring and with a 4-carat requirement, I think that’s a good place to start.
ETA: If you care so much about passing off a moissy for a diamond, I highly suggest not going that route. I myself considered moissy for a moment, but then realized I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling people it wasn’t a diamond, so I knew they weren’t for me. I got a lab diamond instead and it cost at least half of what it would have. As a pp has linked, Brilliant Earth is where my ring is from and our experience was/the quality is great.
Post # 10
Coming from someone who desperately wanted her Moissanite stand-in ring to look like a diamond (I had H&A, AGS 000…) it never really did and it certainly never was mind-clean. I ended up getting a diamond. I would look into pre-loved diamonds, lab diamonds etc.
ETA: why were you hoping for a 60k diamond ring in the first place? Do you or your SO have a lot of disposable money where this was once possible and isn’t anymore? Or is it more like the dreams you had growing up playing with costume jewelry?
Post # 12
smallbudgetbigdreams : Also OP, as a PP mentioned, if you’re going to upgrade to a diamond later, just do that now.
I will tell you that at 4 carats, whatever stone you get will look fake, like costume jewelry.
Whether you pay $3,000 for moissanite now and upgrade to a $60,000 stone later, or just get the diamond the first time, the end result is the same.
What is your actual budget?
Are you saying you’re hoping for a $60k ring the same way some of us hope to see world peace or because he’s looking at spending like $50k and he’s just under your dream ring? How feasible is this?
Post # 13
mamabat : She wants an oval
mimivac : 4 carats
Post # 14
sounds like you’d be happier with a diamond so why not get a smaller one with great specs?
Post # 15
I guess this all depends on your finances. If your fiance is wealthy then 60k for an engagement ring makes sense. If not, your ideas on what’s appropriate for an engagement ring are ridiculous. Unless you have that amount many times over it makes no sense to spend it on a ring.
If you aren’t fabulously wealthy, why don’t you find a beautiful more reasonably priced ring that you like, and then you can replace it yourself with a 4 carat diamond when you have saved up the 60k? I don’t see why your fiance should have to foot the bill for vanity.