(Closed) HELP! I can’t sleep with my husband!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

King sized bed and separate comforters work wonders for a marriage. It’s practically like we each have our own queen beds,  but we can meet in the middle to cuddle.

For the snoring, I recommend a fan or a white noise machine. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Fiance and I had this problem when we first started living together.  It took a while but eventually we got used to sleeping in the same bed (queen sized) and are sleeping well now.  I think that a king size bed would definitely help.  If our bedroom was bigger, we would definitely have one!

That doesn’t stop the snoring, but I have definitely gotten used to FI’s snoring and don’t even notice it anymore.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@cincychick35:  A king size bed might help, but not if he’s trying to snuggle you, he’ll come find you even in a bigger bed =p.  Snoring they have those nasal strips for (one of my ex’s used them and they worked like a charm) As for the snuggling and getting hot- I apparently do the same thing to my Fiance so he just started running a fan in the bedroom all the time that way he’s kind of cold and doesn’t mind having me crush on him.  Hope you sort it out!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that this is always an issue when you start sleeping with someone. I just got used to it with Darling Husband. Now it’s no big deal. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Get used to it.  Sorry.  My FH and I fight about the bed every night.  But then again, we’ve been sharing a king-sized for nearly seven years.  Plus we have a forty pound pile of fur that sleeps with us too.  Luckily, my fiance doesn’t snore, but he is very tall, and he sprawls.  Try to set some boundaries, so you can get some sleep.  Just talk to him, and hopefully you can come to an agreement.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This was an issue for Fiance and I at first too.  I’m snuggly and I snore.  He likes space and quiet, lol.  He eventually got used to the snoring, but occasionally if he really can’t sleep he goes to the guest bedroom, and that’s fine.  We also sometimes have a little bit of cuddle time before going to sleep.  I know he likes his space when he’s trying to sleep, and he knows I need some cuddly-ness, so we try to accommodate each other. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is there another room you can sleep in when you need a good night’s rest? Then maybe you can sleep with him some nights to get used to it? I recommend a fan for the noise and to cool the room off. Men just generate a lot of heat, it’s weird and gross basically.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Fiance and I sleep in a queen size bed and it does get crammed sometimes. We use different blankets, and have our own pillows. We have designated cuddle time, and when its time to sleep we do just that. No more cuddling get your blanky and pillows and go to sleep lol. Thats the only thing that keeps us from not being able to sleep.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We sleep in a king sized bed. Hubby’s snoring bothers me (he doesn’t do it every night). We went to the doctor to see if he could get a test for sleep apnea, but it is so expensive. We are still looking into other resources before it gets worse. He also sweats at night and makes me hot. We put the ceiling fan on and it helps. 

What I love about the king sized bed is that we can be apart or under each other if we want to. I am a wild sleeper and I need room to roll around. lol 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’ll get used to it… promise!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We don’t sleep together. After trying it for over a month it just doesn’t work. I wake up sore and irritated and he wakes up cranky. We cannot sleep together and I like to keep it that way for right now. We hope to get a king bed one day and give it a whirl but for right now its not happening.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am a very light sleeper, and I finally got a white noise machine. We also have separate blankets. If I really can’t sleep I just sleep on the couch or separate beds. It works for us.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree with all the white noise recommendations. We have a loud fan (on purpose!) that we use year-round to drown out any background noises. My husband snores a few nights per week (I’m a super light sleeper!) and it helps somewhat. We also have a king size bed which helps immensely. We bought it right after I moved in a few years back because both of us need lots of space to sleep.

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