(Closed) Help: I don’t know how to cook or clean

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Get yourself a good classic cookbook like “The Joy of Cooking” or a subscription to a cooking magazine.  FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS.

Post # 4
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

get yourself the red checkered better homes and garden cookbook and just start trying the “easy” recipes!

Post # 5
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is what I had for supper tonight…and I don’t think you can go wrong! http://allrecipes.com/recipe/stuffed-tomatoes/detail.aspx

So simple


I think you should just try to tackle one or two actual dishes a week so you don’t feel too overwhelmed.  Or try out the slow cooker, those are usually pretty straightforward.  I really like Company’s Coming cookbooks as well.

And as for cleaning…I’m no good either.  Hahaha.

Post # 6
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Here is the best website for learning to clean your house and be organized:


Her system is all about teaching you to form the habits you need to be clean and organized for life.

As for cooking, start small. Pasta and chicken are the easiest, IMO. Some grocery stores offer small cooking classes, so that might be something to look into… or you can always buy a cookbook and just start plowing through it. My grandma bought me the Betty Crocker cookbook as a christmas present after we got engaged and it’s pretty helpful. Your Darling Husband will just have to suck it up and deal with eating what you cook if he wants to eat, fo sho. That’s what Darling Husband did to me. I used to be neurotic about food, SUPER picky, but he has gradually weaned me into trying new things and being more open about food. Ive discovered that I like things that I had no idea I did.

Post # 8
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Heatherloveskenny:  I can’t cook.  Well I can make watery scrambled eggs and a few casseroles.

Cleaning is easier for me, I just set up small tasks like vacuuming+dusting per room, wiping the counter/basin and cleaning the toilet, mopping the kitchen/bathroom, shower every so often.  It’s easier for me to break it up into chunks.  I can’t say that my apartment gets super messy, but having cats tracks litter everywhere so I’m constantly vacuuming.

Post # 9
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Cleaning your bathroom can be really easy if you do it every week–it won’t have time to get dirty.  The disposable toilet brushes are AWESOME… just scrub under the rim, the sides, and under the seat.  Wipe off with toilet paper and flush.  Use comet on your sink area with a sponge and the hot water running.  Comet the tub/shower or use scrubby bubble spray and rinse.  Finish with Windex on your mirror and voila.  Sweep/mop the floor as needed.  This will take no more than 15 minutes, I promise.

As for recipes, what kinds of food do you like?  Have a night off where you just eat prepared food from the deli like potato salad and a rotisserie chicken with some bread and butter.  Use the leftover chicken on a salad… what tickles your fancy?

Post # 12
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Huhs, I feel your pain. As I write this, the apartment is full of gifts, leftover wedding items, a dishwasher to empty and a counterfull of dishes to put back in it.

And I am eating a blizzard after we went to taco bell/dairy queen for supper because neither of us could think of what to make for dinner. Been one of those days.

Definitely start simple. Chicken parmesean is a dish I taught myself that sounds fancy and complicated and is pretty much just a fancier version of the pasta and sauce. Even just adding simple things to your normal meal – a baked sweet potatoe with mac and cheese, sauteed green beans (delicous) with your pasta.

As for cleaning…..I get pretty ADD too, I either try to do one room at a time or go through and do everything that’s ‘easy’.

And definitely get your Darling Husband involved. If he’s picky on the cooking, then he should help come up with some ideas. Same with the cleaning – compromise if you hate vacuuming, he can do that and you do dishes instead.

we all have to start somewhere 🙂

Post # 14
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Heatherloveskenny:  Rofl vacuums in her bikini!  To be fair, my Fiance’s contribution is to clean the kitchen/do dishes usually. 

I shouldn’t say I can’t cook, but it’s sort of true as of right now.  I get motivated, put the effort forward and get discouraged when it doesn’t turn out perfectly so I definitely sympathize with you!

Post # 16
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’d like Real Simple magazine.  Lots of little home keeping tips are in there. 

Once you’re beyond that, move on to Martha Stewart.  She has a great homekeeping book, but that’s Varsity level.  Real Simple is the JV. 😉


Martha Stewart has a homekeeping section on her website with lots of tips, too.


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