(Closed) HELP I don’t know that to do

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do you think she will get along with the girls?  Usually the BMs and GMs don’t interact much except during the ceremony since they usually have their own dates to be with at the reception.

Post # 4
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

By “not get along with” do you mean she’s not super chummy/close friends with the bridal party OR do you mean that she could cause trouble/drama by arguing with the bridal party?

If there’s a strong likelihood of her causing a scene, then I wouldn’t include her.

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  The very first wedding I was in was a friend from elementary school. She had four bridesmaids–her Matron of Honor was her best friend, her Maid of Honor was her sister, and then there was myself and this other friend (I will call her Leah). Leah, the bride, and I had been friends for quite a long time. However, Leah is a bit insecure and can lack a filter.

  Throughout the planning, Leah kept making comments about how much certain things cost. She told the bride that she didn’t understand why she was buying a dress, she should just go to Goodwill or rent one. It’s not that anything is wrong with those choices, but she made it seem like the bride was just being wasteful (she got her dress on sale at David’s Bridal for somewhere in the mid 3 digits). The comments got really old and wore on everybody. She just couldn’t be happy. The bride regretted asking her to be in the wedding, and she and the groom would call her “the bad bridesmaid” behind her back (which, I know isn’t the meanest thing one could ever say, but these two don’t have a mean bone between them). I know that it took a little away from her happiness.

  Oh, and Leah got mad at the groomsman she was paired to walk with. She thought he should have been spending more time with her and asking her to dance. Her groomsman had just met her yesterday, and he had his girlfriend (soon to be fiancee) there with him. That was fun!

  Just something to think about. That was my friend’s experience. Did it completely ruin the wedding? No, but it did cause some unnecessary stress.

Post # 6
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would say if you want her in your wedding that everyone can deal for 1 day, Its not like they have to spend every waking moment with her.


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