(Closed) Help! I don't know what I am doing

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1360 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

And a dress 😉

Post # 5
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well those are the main things you need to book almost immediately if you want to get married this year. Some other things you need to look into right away are photography, transportation, and your dress!

Congrats! We are all a little lost at first but it will come to you!

Post # 6
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Depends on what kind of wedding you want.  I think the first thing is to set a budget and then go from there.  That will help you narrow down what venues will be feasible for you.  I didn’t have a wedding planner, so I looked for a venue that was all inclusive so I didn’t have to worry about chair rentals, wait staff, catering, etc.  Since my hotel block, ceremony and reception are all at the same place, I don’t need to deal with transportation either.  I think they key is to keep things simple.

Post # 7
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think if you have looked at some suggestions and found them to be unnecessary, then the way you should think about this is that you are throwing a fantastic party and in the middle of it you are getting married. You and your future husband need to get some ideas and then discuss which direction you want to go in – it is your day so you can have it however you want!

Church or civil ceremony – completely up to you and your preferences. If you actually attend a church already it is a lot easier to get married there, as many require you to prove your intentions.

Reception – This really could be anything, from afternoon tea in your backyard to a ballroom formal dinner for hundreds of people

Food – BBQ’s are really popular at the moment for more casual weddings, plated 3-course dinners are always lovely. We are doing family-style platters served on long tables, just to give you an idea of more options.

Cake – Cheese stack? Cupcakes? Mini cutting cake? Stacked 3-tier masterpiece?

Wedding Party – You don’t need anyone, but you will need two witnesses to sign the licence. At my wedding there will be two bridesmaids which I think is perfect for our 60-person guest list.


Above all, don’t do anything just because it is expected. Do what you want, cut the traditions you don’t think work for you, and try not to get too overwhelmed by it all! 

Post # 10
7 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can send you a spreadsheet and a timeline document that I am using to plan to my wedding in December of this year if you like (we got engaged December of last year) – my goal is to stay under 10K and still have a dream wedding…getting tight, but cutting a lot of corners.  It has helped me stay on track and the things we can’t afford or don’t plan to do, I just don’t use those spreadsheets.  I even made it so there is a cool cover page that totals up all the main ones in one place.

Post # 12
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The budget is a great place to start since it will dictate pretty much everything for your wedding.

1. Next, you should put together a guest list.  Assume 100% attendance.  This will help you determine how big the venue needs to be and how much it will cost to feed and water everyone.  You might have to trim down the guest list once you figure out how much catering will cost, but it will give you a good starting point.

2. Pick a season or month in which you’d like to get married and start looking for venues and churches.  I found that once you’ve set a date, everything will start falling into place.

3. Once a date is set, you should start looking into other major vendors: catering (if the venue doesn’t provide it), cake, florist, DJ or band, and photographer.  Start with the things that are most important.

4. In conjunction with #3, start looking for a dress and your accessories! 

5. Bridal party: at about the 9-12 month mark, you should ask your Bridal Party. 

6. Save-The-Date Cards (go out 6-9 months in advance).  Note that these are not required, but are helpful if you have a lot of Out of Town guests.

7. Invititations (go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding)

8. Misc. things you should do but can be done at any point 0.5+ month out: centerpieces and other decor, tux/suit rentals, Bridal Party and parental gifts, seating arrangment, music selections (for ceremony and reception)

9. Misc. things that some people have at weddings but aren’t necessary: card box, guest book, programs, welcome bags, bathroom baskets, cake topper, bubbles/sparklers/rice/seeds/whatever for your exit


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