Help….I dont like my dress

posted 2 months ago in Dress
Post # 16
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

adding votes in for suggestions of losing the bow, streamlining the skirt (less poufy, more elegant), a deeper v neckline and switching the veil for a birdcage. All great ideas!

It’s all very well people saying the dress is beautiful etc etc, but that’s not much help if you’re on the fence. I hope some of the bees suggestions give you ideas to make you LOVE your dress!

Post # 17
1535 posts
Bumble bee

Sorry but I agree it looks younger than a wedding dress should – and not because of your age or being a 2nd time bride, I would think that for a 28-year-old woman wearing it!  I recommend finding something with less pouf on the bottom half, either do full sleeves or no sleeves, and maybe something with finer, smaller lace patterns.

Post # 18
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018


The bow makes it look way too young(like a flower girl). The poof is just too much so I would just take out some crinoline.

Other than that, it dooes look lovely on you. Also with your hair and makeup all done up you will look fabulous!

Post # 19
2769 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

jennibear :  I have nothing really to add on top of the other comments, except than I would also consider maybe altering the neckline. I think a v-neck is a more grown up option than off-the-shoulder, when combined with the tulle skirt anyway, so I’d be looking to see if you can raise the shoulders so they’re sitting on the shoulder instead of off them. And then lowering the neckline to show off some more cleavage.

That combined with a sparkly belt and a less poofy skirt will bring you into sophisticated territory.

Post # 20
2444 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I really like the dress!!  I actually kind of like the bow, but I had one on my dress, so I guess I’m bias!  I would vote for loosing some of the poof though.

Post # 21
492 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the PP’s that said 1. you look really young and 2. change up the belt! It looks great on you and just needs a little tweaking!

Post # 22
744 posts
Busy bee

Ditch the bow, replace with a more sophisticated or blingy belt.  

Would you be comfortable redoing the neckline, perhaps showing a hint of cleavage? Going from off the shoulder to a v-veckline would definitely help take it out of flower girl territory. 

I’m also not a fan of the appliqué feature that goes down the bodice, I think it skews a bit junior. 

Make the skirt either less poufy or way more poufy?

I like the idea of a birdcage veil. The veil you’re wearing in the pics, combined with the dress, reminds me of First Communion. 

Post # 23
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

desirella :  Hi there! My friend actually wore the first dress you pictured as her wedding dress! It looked beautiful on her. 


jennibear :  I think the sash can be changed and your sleeves should be shortened. 

Post # 24
329 posts
Helper bee

Your dress is beautiful and pretty much what I originally wanted. Being very short and quite round it just didn’t suit me though so I went for a fit and flare. Lose the sash and bow and go for a sewn in belt.  Other than that it is perfect, the sleeve length is lovely.

Post # 25
3280 posts
Sugar bee

jennibear :  Youhold your age very well. It’sa beautiful dress and the three quarter sleeves arelovely, an absolute stand out feature.

 I think the sash could be eliminated for a more sophisticated look. I think doing so would give the dress a much “cleaner” line.  I just don’t hink the sash adds anything and I don’t think a different sash would make much difference.

I like the idea that someonelese posted about shortening the length.  That would give it amore “50s ” vibe. I’m personally rather fond of that look.  Teaming your dress with some high stiletto court shoes would add instant sophistication.  Those sort of shoes elongate your legs (always makes me feel like a supermodel to have longer legs)

Don’t overthink the whole thing, however, as what you already have is a beautiful dress that you look wnderful in.


Post # 26
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Totally fixable! I would ditch the sash completely, and I would change the neckline. First instinct was to make the front a deeper V but then when I looked at it more I’m thinking it just hits your shoulders at a weird spot, like not really on and not really off. If you really went totally off the shoulders and followed that line across the front to lower the front as well it would look super mature, sexy, and classic! Also agree with PP that you might want to look into getting rid of the tulle and putting something else like organza over the top. Good luck!

Post # 27
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

clairebeebear :  this is what I’m thinking- either the shoulders need to be on with a deeper v or they need to be all the way off. It’s in some indecisive middleground thats throwing me!

Post # 28
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Bar Harbor Inn

I know this probably doesn’t help but I feel like it is missing a train. I don’t know if those can be added or not.

Post # 29
4994 posts
Honey bee

jennibear :  

I’m with everybody else in saying do get rid of that satin sash  thing ! I think no belt at all woudl be best . 

I like off- the -shoulder and think it is quite sophisticated  generally but yours is somehow  not quite off the shoulder  enough , if that makes sense ?  but  since  you have very sloping  shoulders  maybe it wouldn’t  stay up well  enough if made more ‘off’.  Perhaps widened into a more bateau neck? (pp bellarose above has some good ideas) 

I think I would also shorten the sleeves a bit, say to just above elbow .  I’m not sure about de-poofing as it not that huge a skirt !

Birdcage veil would be nice but only if  you did want to make it tea length, otherwise a plain veil , but worn from the crown of your head , which  is much adult and  elegant imo, than the ‘low ponytail ‘style in your pic . 

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