(Closed) help! i dont love my engagement ring :(

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would talk to the FH, tell him that you are concerned that the band is too small for your hands.  I think he will understand that.  You might give a quick call to the jewelry store first and find out if you can exchange the band or how much it would cost to get it reset.   It may not be that big of a deal and maybe that will soften it for him.

Post # 4
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I was in the same situation actually! I had THOUGHT I wanted a plain solitaire. But after seeing another ring I kinda fell in love with that. My partner is all about what I’m happy with though so she didn’t mind a bit 🙂 Got the new ring almost 2 weeks ago and I’m always staring at it lol.

Post # 5
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Do you think if you got the ring sized up about a half size, it would fit better?

I only say this because I have short, chubby fingers as well… and my engagement ring is the same as yours (1ct round solitaire, plain white gold band). It looked good on my finger until I got a wedding band… and then since my wedding band is thicker, it pushed my engagement ring up on my finger, which made my finger chub kind of stick out. So I got my engagement ring sized up, and now it looks good again.

That’s just a suggestion… but if you definitely have your mind set on a diamond band, then you need to talk to Fiance about it. I think as long as you explain that it isn’t his fault for not knowing you wanted a diamond band.

I got a diamond band wedding ring, which adds a lot of sparkle next to my plain band engagement ring.

Post # 6
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

After my Fiance first saw the band, he had them re-do it.  I also have a solitaire with a plain band but instead of it being a thin band, it is evenly 3mm wide all the way around instead of tapering to a thinner size.  Is it possible to just have gold added to thicken up the band?

I have abnormally long fingers so I understand the desire to not have the ring look “lost” on your finger.

Post # 7
14 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

This rings (pun totally intended) a little close to home.  I told my fiance that the one ring I did not want was a single solitare on a plain band.  and what did i get?!  well, as we have been engaged for over a year, turns out he knew me a little better than i thought.  he said all of the others he looked at, the bands took away from the sheer elegance of the stone.  i LOVE my ring – I say give it a chance… and do what I plan to, which is what he suggested when he proposed – get your wedding band BLINGED out!

Post # 8
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Mrs.Kennedy: Honestly, if it were me I wouldn’t say anything. He got you the ring you had asked for and spent a lot on it. Maybe you can get it sized up and bling it up with two diamond eternity bands for either side of the setting once you’re married.

The only scenario I’d say something is if he asks specifically… I know you’re going to be wearing it for the rest of your life but it’s still a gift he picked out for you. Rings can always be changed once you’ve been married awhile. I wasn’t crazy about my original e-ring either, but after the engagement and wedding calmed down I felt a lot more confident in changing it and by then my husband didn’t care at all.

Post # 9
1748 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs.Kennedy: You can fix that with a great wedding band. Later you can change the semi mount for a birthday gift or something. I think you would seem rude complaining about a ring that you picked out. That’s frustrating.  

Post # 10
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it depends on your relationship with your SO.  My Fiance is a pragmatist and when I wasn’t happy with the way my engagement band was fitting with wedding bands I just talked to him about it and we resolved it together.  If you guys are like that then I would suggest bringing it up after calling the store where he purchased it and know what your options are. 

On the other hand, if your SO is the type to put significance on “the ring he picked out for you” I would first try on your engagment ring with some wedding bands with diamonds and then decide if its worth it.  I see a lot of women with plain silver engagement bands and diamond weddings bands and I think it looks amazing (and sparkly!). 

Post # 11
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ok so I work at a jewelry store, and I see this scenario ALL the time! There is totally a way to compromise! Go to the jewelry store and look at the enhancer/wrap section! We carry a number of rings that the solitare “sits” in/under and it hides the solitare band….you pretty much just slide your original band under the new one (which usually has a few diamonds) and it completely transforms a plain solitare band into more of a “unity” band!! They are stunning, affordable, AND make a world of difference!! This way you wouldn’t have to have yours reset and both of you win!! 🙂


If you have any other questions, just PM me! Brandy

Post # 13
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In My Humble Opinion I wouldn’t say anything and just make up for it with a ‘wrap’ or solitaire enhancer for a wedding band. No use hurting his feelings and his wallet when you can just fix it with a wedding band, ya know?

Post # 14
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Haha I didn’t see that someone already suggested that. Whoops. Repetitive! 

Post # 15
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe you could get a fancier wedding ring to enhance the overall look.

Post # 16
7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

As some have suggested a wrap may get it close to what you were looking for. I wanted a halo engagement ring and ended up with a solitare on a pave diamond band (more of what you wanted I think). However, I found a wrap for my ring that gave me even a better look than a halo in my opinion. Here’s a pic of it in the wrap

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