- 4 years ago
How were you “outvoted” on what your own children’s last names are? I’m not gonna have any name I want to and kids that come out of me will also have names that I’m happy with. There’s no voting on my name. I am whoever I say I am and my name is whatever I want it to be and it’s odd and concerning to me if someone badly or emotionally wants my name to be something that I don’t want.
I’m fine w ppl doing whatever they want to do. For me, I don’t feel like changing my name (or having my Fiance change his), but my compromise is that I’d add his last name as an extra middle name or as an extra last name (no hyphen) if he did the same. I’d still use only my own last name at work (no hyphen or two last names). I don’t care what anybody calls me socially, but we’d both tell ppl I kept my name if they asked.