Post # 1
I am a regular poster but going undercover because I am both ashamed and embarrassed.
Darling Husband and I got married a few months ago. I am VERY happy with him. I have been on the birth control pill for over 10 years. While on the pill, my sex drive was nonexistant and I could go months possibly even years without it.
Darling Husband and I decided to start trying to have a baby, so obviously I had to get off of my bc pill. About a week after stopping, I realized that my sex drive is THROUGH THE ROOF. I literally think about it every single second of every single day. The problem is that not only am I dreaming about having sex with Darling Husband, but I’m desiring other men as well. I am to the point where I am pretty much men crazy. I find myself flirting with just about every man I come in contact and absolutely CRAVING attention from any man that even looks at me.
This is SO unlike me and I am scaring myself. I am all of a sudden SUPER attracted to one man in particular, who I didn’t even think twice about nor would I even pay attention to months ago when I was on the pill. I fear that if the opportunity arose that I would go ahead and cheat (especially with this man) just because I wouldn’t be able to say no!
I LOVE my husband and I feel AWFUL for even feeling this way.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? HELP!
Post # 3
I think you need to speak with a counsellor or doctor. This just doesn’t seem to be standard behaviour when going off the pill. I went off for 3 months and YES my libido went through the roof, but it was only for my Fiance. I didnt suddenly develop a wandering eye.
Post # 4
This is not you talking – it’s the hormones. They make you think crazy things.
You have complete control over your actions. You will not cheat unless you want to. Do not use this as an excuse.
Post # 5
I would go and see a therapist as soon as possible. Yes, your hormones obviously increase/decrease and affect your sex drive. However, that does not change your emotions and make you want to cheat. That’s completely psychological. If everything were alright, then your hormones would increase your sex drive making you want to attack Darling Husband every second of the day…however this isn’t the case.
Go and talk to someone. Figure out why you are feeling the way that you are, it sounds like there’s an underlying issue that you aren’t addressing that needs to be. Hormones are not an excuse for cheating.
Post # 6
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
Studies show that the birth control pill CHANGES the way women feel about men. It CHANGES how attracted you are to certain men. I once read an article that suggested that you get off the pill before you marry your fiance to make sure you’re still attracted to him!
That and the fact that the pill DOES decrease your libido.
If you find yourself attracted to one man in particular, I suggest you STOP TALKING to that man. Cut him out, permanently, from your life. And, as far as your libido goes – just enjoy as much as you can with your Darling Husband.
When you feel that desire, look at your ring, remember your vows and walk away.
Maybe you can put pictures of your Darling Husband all over your office or wherever you work to constantly remind yourself of him, too?
Post # 7
Magic Wand. Go.
Also, I agree with the advice to NOT put yourself in even any slightly risky situations. Make choices with your head, not with your hormones.
Post # 8
How to put this delicately…do you have any fun “toys” in your arsenal? I think this is a situation where it would be a good idea to make the most of your alone time.
And then talk to your husband, tell him you’ve been uber horny, and find fun ways to give him sexy surprises. Coming up with the surprises (like some new lingerie, showing up at the dinner table nude, bringing toys into the bedroom) could help fulfill some of your libido while still driving your sexual thoughts toward your husband.
And this could be the chance to share some of your fantasies with each other and enact them…maybe you could both plan to meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers flirting with each other, then go to a hotel room?
Post # 9
@futuremrsk18: Thank you so much for your reply. It makes me feel better to know that I am not this horrible person and that there is a reason for this. Thank you.
Post # 10
@anemonie: Thank you for the tips!!
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You’re alive, and you have hormones, I don’t think anything is wrong with you either. However you do have the choice and knowledge on how to make proper choices for your life!
I agree, get a wand! I can’t imagine how you’ll be with pregnancy hormones!
Post # 13
There is nothing wrong with how you are feeling! Grab some toys and “supplement” and fantasize to your heart’s desire! For me, Johnny Depp works – BIG TIME! LOL
Post # 14
OMG….Now I want to go off the pill SO bad!!!!!!
Post # 15
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you. Don’t be ashamed.
Too Much Information but I’ve never been on hormonal birth control and ovulation is something like this for me, and as I get older it gets more powerful. Maybe you just haven’t ovulated for a long time and the experience is knocking you off your feet. Honestly I think of myself as being “in heat” during that time of the month – it’s that powerful. And it’s not just a 24-hour thing but the days leading up to it also. Find ways to cope. Fantasies, fingers, toys, ambushing your husband, whatever works. I honestly sympathize with how you can feel out of control, but the fact is you are always in control. Ovulating also makes you feel sexier (and it actually DOES make you sexier) to other men, but just tell yourself, I’m a sexual, attractive being, hell yes I am, and I’m taking that home to my husband. Remember that saying about how it’s okay to get your appetite elsewhere as long as you eat at home. Maybe not everyone agrees with that, but I have to believe that anyone who has felt that “in heat” feeling would understand!
Post # 16
@futuremrsk18: 100% agree. If you have a problem with one particular person, stay far away from them. Stop talking to him, please.
But the pill is mental, I came off it because they kept messing me up (tried most types), it can cause massive changes in libido, so I get you. lol
I think before you start with the toys and stuff, have a talk with hubby, see if you can’t start chanelling that energy into him, especially if you are TTC. Make it fun!