- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Well ive been reading a lot of the posts on here and i was hoping for some opinions of whether ive done the right thing or not.
We’ve been together for 6 and a half years now, living together for 3 and marriage has always been on the cards, since the earlier years of our relationship.
About 2 months ago i found a jewellers bag in amongst some of his washing and pulled out a little wooden box which inside was the most beautiful white gold diamond ring. (exactly my taste which goes to show me that he actually has paid attention when i look at jewellery!)
This weekend we went away and being the maniac that i am, i searched the car high and low and the luggage to see if the ring was likely to come out over the weekend. I couldn’t find a thing much to my dissappointment!
i couldnt take the guilt (and frustration of waiting) any longer and on Saturday i told him that a couple of months ago i think id stumbled across something i was not supposed to find. i neglected to tell him that id opened it, but instead told him that id had the self control not to peek, but that i knew but the quality of the box what was inside.
am i a terrible person for lying to him? id hate to completely ruin the fun of suprising me for him by telling him that i saw it, but i could not let him propose and pretend that i didnt already know it was on the cards. i have been waiting ages for this to happen and cant take much more!!
he told me that he has had the ring for a while (18 months) and was all set to propose but then his brother proposed to his gf (getting married in dec 11) and then when he was all set again, his close friend got engaged. he said he wants ours to be special and not ‘tacked on’ to someone elses engagement.
I can understand this and feel the same but it is frustrating to know that all this time he was so close!! i feel like now though i have put pressure on him to go through with it without really meaning to put pressure on him…i told him that i am completely fine with waiting and that he obviously has a plan and i dont want to ruin that part of the surprise at least.
he wasnt angry at me like i thought he would be, he was annoyed that he’d moved it out of its original hiding spot (which he told me was the spare wheel well of his car) and that it was mixed up with his washing because i nearly sprung him trying to move it into a new hiding spot.
what do i do from here on out? do i be patient and nevere mentioned it again until he proposes? or do i counter suprise him somehow?
im sorry this post is so long – thankyou for reading 🙂
any suggestions/advice welcome!!