Post # 1
I haven’t posted much, but have found this site to be such an invaluable resource throughout my wedding planning- so thank you!
I hope you will all be able to help me out- I am seriously stressed out about my dress and it is only 2 weeks till the wedding!!
I HATE the way the dress looks bustled and all anyone at the dress shop will tell me is that it looks beautiful, the dress just needs to be steamed and not to worry. First we tried an over bustle and I thought it looked pretty from the back, but it really made the sides pucker out and it looked like a tent.
Next we went for the french bustle and it looks better from the front but looks like a big messy pouf in the back.
I know it is tricky b/c it is a long train with tulle in the middle, but I was hoping some of the bees might have an idea for me. Please help!
I was even willing to cut off the train, but I think that might look silly because you would loose all of the detail on the bottom.
Also- another issue I have with the dress is that I have very small boobs and am very self-conscious about it. I think I should’ve gone with a dress with more gathering or draping in that area that would’ve made me more comfortable.
Any ideas or reassurance would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!
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Post # 3
First off, your boobs look fine! I’m also a small-busted girl, so I can relate!
As for the bustle, I think I like #1 the best – I like that it shows off the tulle in your train. I honestly think it looks really beautiful, but ultimately you need to be happy with it 🙂
Post # 4
I think the first bustle is beautiful and doesn’t look like a tent at all.
I had about the same cleavage as you did. I was considering chicken cutlets but I didn’t wear them on my wedding day because I didn’t want to be vavavoomy.
Post # 5
First, I think your bust looks totally fine in the dress. It doesn’t look small & appears to fill out quite nicely. But, if it’s something you’re uncomfortable with, then no amount of being told you look awesome will make you feel better. Since the dress is yours, then what other solution could there be? Maybe wearing a better bra? Something that makes you feel a little more full?
As for the bustle, I actually think the very first picture . . . where you felt like it looked like a tent . . . looks best. I just think it needs to be tucked better on the sides, where it is making the satin part of the dress appear to pucker out.
I know for my dress, I didn’t care for how that same bustle looked on me, so they moved it out so that it’s attached right where the sash is, instead where yours is bustled. I know I preferred that so much more!
I hope you figure out something because you need to fell happy, beautiful & comfortable!
Post # 6
Have you heard of the ballroom bustle? That’s what I’m doing.. It basically pulls the hemline up underneath your dress. I really like it, becuase like you I am not really a bustle fan!
here’s a good explanation of what I’m talking about! Good luck! 🙂
Post # 7
I like your first bustle personally, but I would look into that ballroom bustle if you’re not satisfied with either!
Post # 8
I love your dress and it looks perfect on you. I personally like the french bustle but they both look good!
Post # 9
Your dress is lovely and you look beautiful! I like the first bustle best out of the photos you posted, but if your not happy, I saw a ‘cascading’ bustle (photo below hopefully). I think the cascade is beautiful, but I have no idea if it would work with your dress.
Post # 10
I personaly prefer the french bustle. But since you loose so much of the detail on your dress I can see why you would not want it. This is the link to where I got my bustle info from http://www.projectwedding.com/wedding-ideas/bustles-for-your-gown I think a Ballroom Bustle would keep the detail for you or the last one called the Austrian Bustle might work. Good luck. You look beautiful! don’t stress out too much 🙂
Post # 11
I really liked the first bustle. I would not worry about your breasts as they look nice and not too small. I think someone else said if it really bothers you, just get a helper bra. Really, I think your figure, the dress, and the bustle are beautiful. Not at all tent like.
Post # 12
I have exactly the same concerns with my dress!! I also liked the 1st picture. I had a bustle where the sides were also sticking out (a lot of organza) and they’re working around it by adding a tie on each side to tie together horizontally. Not sure if it’s an official bustle, but it worked and doesn’t look like a hot mess from the front anymore.
I had them insert some padded cups into the dress to give me more shape, but honestly, the top of the dress is pretty tight so it didn’t really make much of a difference. I can say though, that I think you look like you fill out the dress well. As someone told me, we all know you have little boobies, so to have cleavage on your wedding day would be a bit weird.
Post # 13
i like the over bustle… it doesnt hide away the beauty of the dress… i also have a small bust and was worried about that.. but its nothing a good bra can help besides the dress fits well and doesnt make you look like you have a small bust.. i think sometimes we focus on the things we are in secure about even tho no one else notices them at all
Post # 14
Thanks ladies! This helps a lot! I think I realize the boob issue is in my head- a few glasses of wine and I’m sure I won’t think anything of it on the wedding day! (FYI- there’s already two sets of cups in there- not much more I can do!)
The bustle, on the other hand, we are going to need to work on! Miss Starry Night- ties on the sides sounds like a great idea. I like the ballroom and cascade ideas too- hopefully the seamstress will be willing to play around with it a bit!
Post # 15
the second pic of the under ‘french’ style bustle looks different than the first, did she flatten it out somehow? anyway that second pic looks great!! i had a similar problem with too much poof on my bustle from the organza layer, so my seamstress ended up putting in a 6 point french bustle to sort of draw in the poofy sides and make it more stream lined, it turned out great. the points sort of looked like an upside-down U. and from your pics your boobs look just fine!
Post # 16
Whew! I went to a different seamstress today who new exactly what to do! A three point over bustle- you can still see the beautiful tulle and it is no longer puckering out at the sides. What a relief. Maybe I’ll finally be able to sleep tonight! Thanks bees for your help- hopefully someone else will learn from my trauma!