(Closed) Help: I hate my fiances dog.

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 2
3898 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

This is not a minuscule issue but a huge one! Im so worry to hear about it bee.maybe talking to a dog trainer/behavioir specialst would help? Im really at a loss for words and really wouldn’t know what to do. 

Post # 3
2851 posts
Sugar bee

Tough situation! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. So, in your case, I feel like your fiancé needs to be the one to control his dog’s behavior. It is his dog and his responsibility. The urine marking is obviously not ok, but the aggression / territorial behavior towards your dog is the big concern. If you guys moved in together in July this has been going on for 3 months. I know you said you guys talked and Fiance is concerned, but if that’s true, why isn’t he taking action to resolve his dogs behavior issues? 

Post # 4
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Yeah he needs to take action as well, we spent ages getting our fluff balls used to one another before we moved in, mostly because my cat is an asshole.

see if you can find a trainer that will help 

Post # 5
9845 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would take over all responsibilities (walking, feeding etc) of his dog. The dog does not see you as the leader IMO.

Definitely seek out a trainer if possible too.

Post # 6
255 posts
Helper bee

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lmccloy :  Is his dog a full male? If so, castration could help big time.

Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lmccloy :  This will only get worse. His dog lacks manners and feels he can run the house. As stated above, you need to start feeding and walking his dog … but feeding only after the “sit” command.

1.) his dog gets neutered asap, if he isn’t already. This is not up for debate, this is a must do.

2.) again, asap. obedience training for BOTH of you to attend with his dog. +/- behavior training – this is not the same as obedience training.

It really sounds like Fiance has never given this dog any boundaries and now this dog is trying to let you know he – the dog- is boss in that house. This has NOTHING to do with his breed and EVERYTHING to do with Fiance lack of training.

Post # 8
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

As PP said, you should definitely take over all care duties for your FI’s dog. Rescue dogs can be tough because they may have experienced limited resources in the past and naturally want to protect them. Your first step should be to teach FI’s dog basic obedience such as sit, stay, and leave it. Leave it will be important in this case because it teaches him that leaving the toy/treat results in a reward. After he’s mastered these tricks with just you, you can start introducing your dog into the exercises. Tell his dog to leave the toy and hand it to your dog. Give his dog a treat and an enthusiastic petting. It may take a few iterations of this to get him to do this calmly. After a while, you can then repeat this exercise, but instead of handing the toy/treat to your dog, have your dog approach his and take the toy/treat. Double reward this behavior

Oh, and please do walk the two dogs at the same time. It will definitely help get them accustomed to being around one another in a structured setting!

Post # 9
6240 posts
Bee Keeper

Yup nuts off for sure for his dog. Then both of you agreeing to work together as a team for you to have a harmonious life. Then employing the services of a dog behaviourist who will work with you both and your dogs to set up an environment where you will all thrive and where you and your Fiance both agree on what each of you will do around each behaviour. Ensure the behaviourist you get is one that uses positive renforcrment methods and doesn’t prescribe to scientifically out dated ‘leader of the pack/alpha’ ideas.   

Hopefully your Fiance will see you’re making the effort to make it work so he’ll make the effort to adhere to the programme for everyone’s best interests. 

Post # 10
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We did as a PP said and took about 6 months to get our dogs use to each other because I have a rescue dog that has the same issues, and it worked big time. By the time we moved in together it was a smooth transition.

The jealous issues, and issues with guarding toys/food etc are all common for dogs who were rescued. A good rescue should have given your Fiance tips on how to deal with these things. Since he came from a rescue I’m assuming he’s already fixed because that’s the law in most states/counties (but if they didn’t teach him how to deal with these issues they might not be a very good rescue). It sounds like you are at the point of needing an in home trainer. Remember to a dog negative reinforcement doesn’t exist. If they get any type of attention it’s positive so yelling, scolding, hitting etc doesn’t work, only true positive reinforcement for good behavior. 

Post # 11
657 posts
Busy bee

Dominance issues often arise when situations change so I don’t think it’s anybody’s fault he’s acting like this. I’m sure trainer will help but it already sounds like you are already working to establish the rules so I think you just need to give it more time. 

My Future Brother-In-Law has a very dominant Aussie and his wife has a overly excitable and rescued shepherd mix. Now this Aussie had lived with roomates and their dogs before so it was surprising that when the wife and shepherd moved in, the Aussie would pick fights with the shepherd and push boundaries with the wife. This was especially concerning because the shepherd had hurt another dog before. The wife was able to establish dominance pretty fast but it still took a number of months (definitely more than two) for the dogs to establish a decent relationship. 

Post # 12
4251 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would get a a good trainer to come in and help.  I good trainer is worththe $60 an hour or whatever it is they charge.  

Post # 15
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Honestly a dog becomes pretty close to having a child. Maybe put him in doggy school?

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