- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016
Hello Bees! I have a terrible, terrible issue and am in dire need of advice.
I have been engaged to my fiance since May 2016 (Yay!!!) and we moved in together in July. Things are going great except for this one problem. I am having a difficult time adjusting to living with his dog.
We both have dogs. I have a 1 year old golden retriever and he has a 5 year old rescue pitbull mix. His dog is used to being the only dog in the house, and is very posessive over my fiance.
This presents an issue for numerous reasons….
1) the safety of my dog. She is an incredibly sweet, hyper dog. She loves to play with his dog and doesn’t posess any jealousy issues. She actually probably favors my fiance, which is fine by me. My fiances dog, however, gets very jealous over her and will nip at her. He also has posession tendencies with toys and will snap easily. This presents a huge red flag because I worry for her safety and I do not want her to end up aggressive.
2) His dog gets jealous of me. His dog has peed on our bed and I know that it isn’t a health issue, but rather behaviorial. We have tried to limit access to certain parts of the house with dog doors, but sometimes he finds ways around it.
I know these may sound like miniscule things, but this is seriously starting to affect my day-to-day life and I do not want to resent my fiance because of his dog’s jealous behavior.
I have tried a few things, such as switching dogs during walking, and letting him have a specific time to have one-on-one time with my fiance. His dog is not crated (but mine is) and his dog freaks out when he is confined. I feel like setting some boundaries would help, but at this point I’m not sure where to start.
I am trying to keep my cool, but I worry that this jealous behavior is only going to worsen. And I cannot take our bed getting peed on one more time. And I’m talking about peeing RIGHT where I sleep. Ugh!
My fiance and I have both talked about this, and he knows it’s an issue and he is equally as upset about these incidents.
I would appreciate any advise. Thank you, bees!