(Closed) HELP! I hate my ring

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do
    Tell him you don't like it and get a refund or a different ring : (32 votes)
    28 %
    Wear it until the moissy is here : (54 votes)
    48 %
    Tell him you think it was poorly made as an excuse for a different ring : (19 votes)
    17 %
    Wear it around him, hide it around others until the moissy is here : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    can we see a pic?

    Post # 4
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    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Lets see a pic. From the sounds of it, you could wear it on a necklace while you’re working. He sounds very emotionally involved in it since he cried and I think it would be best that you just leave it be.

    Post # 6
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    8276 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If he was that emotional about it, I’d suck it up and wear it even if it’s not your dream ring. Once the moissy comes you could always switch it to a RHR or something.

    Post # 7
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    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    What about getting the Moissy now?

    Post # 9
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    9625 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think wearing it on a necklace is a good idea 🙂

    Post # 10
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    335 posts
    Helper bee

    Your poor fiance.  Honestly, why are you embarrassed?  Because he was, no offense, a man?  He obviously put his heart into it, and that’s what should matter. As you said, it’s a temporary ring, and, you know what?  Whether people think you upgraded, or not, who cares what they think?  What matters is what is between you and your future husband.

    I don’t know if you plan on having kids, but, if you do, what if someday your child made this hideous macaroni necklace that they were just SO proud of, and they just wanted to see you wear it? 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    People are probably going to rip into you so I wanted to let you know that I understand where you are coming from. An engagement ring is something you have to wear every day for the rest of your life. You can’t force yourself to love something but sometimes you do have to suck it up. I think it’s great that you have a Moissy on the way and can wear that. In the mean time you should probably wear the ring even though it’s not what you envisioned. 

    Edit: I also think the kid comment in the previous post is a snarky low blow that is completely unrelated. 

     

    Post # 13
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    193 posts
    Blushing bee

    @Chaoslight:  i totally agree with you. It’s a blessing to have a man that loves you, and no matter how the ring looks like you should try to get over it. What people say it really does not matter. we would like to see a picture though, may be we could say more about it. I have a small diamond ring,  only a solitaire, the diamond is really small but i love it. I know we’re going to upgrade it later and i see nothing wrong in it. My husband works hard, for both. I know he worked for this ring. My ring was bought from a street golden Shop, he proposed in the middle of the street and we just ran and bought the ring from this small shop. We got documents on it and they even accepted to make it smaller for my finger. I did chose a small diamond, not because he didn’t afford, but because i appreciate his work. Girl get over it, this isn’t what really matters in life, and stop looking at what people think about. No offense to the women with large diamonds, i’m happy to see these big rings, there are guys who afford them and you should be proud of your rings. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I think a big part of it depends on how much you both value honesty in your relationship. 

    If he’d rather be happy then know the truth about a preference if you have of something you hate from him, then keep it a secret.

    If he’s expressed that he wants to know how you truly feel, despite how difficult it might be, then you need to tell him the truth.

    I don’t really think an item should come between honesty… no matter how hard it might be to hear… but I’m crazy about trust/honesty, and I know a lot of people see these things in various situations quite differently. I’m pretty black and white on it is all.

    He’s not a child… telling him you don’t care for the style of something he chose shouldn’t… traumatize him. I think he might be putting too much emotional emphasis on it. Just because you don’t like the style of the ring doesn’t mean you don’t love him any less; it doesn’t mean he by any means failed. He just doesn’t have the same tastes as you. 

    Plus, it sounds like it will be difficult to work with at your job, which was the whole point of him getting an alternative ring. If you can’t wear it, you can’t wear it. Ugly or not, it sounds like it’s not practical and needs to be returned/exchanged.

    Like other people have said, I’d get the one you want, and wear it around your neck when you’re at work. A band will look like you’re married, regardless of the type.

    I wouldn’t want to have to have an upgraded e-ring anyway. At least not for a bajillion years or something. I want the one that I’m going to wear now and long beyond the wedding. that’s just imo.

    I’d take the ring back, he can save his money, and you can get the one you intend on getting anyway. You won’t be not working when you get the moissy, will you? So I’m not… sure why you don’t just do that now? 

    Post # 15
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    38 posts
    Newbee

    I’m curious so can I ask why you chose not to get the moissy for the actual proposal? I understand it needs to be functional for your work but I would have worn it on a necklace at work if it got in the way.

    Other then that I voted to wear it until you get the moissy, as hopefully that is not super far away!

    Post # 16
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    8884 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’d wear it. It’s not about the ring, it’s about the sentiment behind it.

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