(Closed) Help! I just get engaged and I love another ring!!?!?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

Buy it yourself and wear it on your right hand if you really must have it.  Honestly I could not imagine going to my H and telling him that I actually really don’t like my e-ring so I want a new one.  He would look at me like I had 3 freaking heads.  Plus he would also be extrememly hurt because he spent his hard earned money on my ring.  I mean come on, your Fiance spent $4500 on a ring that YOU picked out and a year later you want him to spend $1300 more on a different ring because you just don’t like your original one anymore?  I’m sorry but I read so many “I don’t like my e-ring and want something different” threads on here that it is mind boggling.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2003

Do you have photos of both rings?

If I were you, I would keep the original ring since it was so expensive and find a blingy wedding band (or two) to go with it.  And then let your Fiance know that you would love the other ring as a future anniversary/birthday/holiday gift as a RHR.  That way you get best of both. 🙂  After that, I would drop it.  It sounds like his feelings are a bit hurt and even if the decision was rushed, you did get to actaully pick the ring, it was expensive and bought at year ago, so too much time has passed to exchange or return it.  

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper

While I am all about having multiple sets, don’t do what I did.. which is exactly what you’re doing right now.  I look back and realize that I’ve wasted THOUSANDS on shrinkage, or a design flaw.  All you know right now is that you want to change your ring.

This is what I highly suggest-purchasing cheap berricle rings in different cuts and styles to see what you really like.  But remember-you’re going to loose value because you’ll have to sell back used.  Or see if the jeweler has an upgrade policy.

It’s not wrong to want something different, it’s just a warning sign for set hording 😉 [that was kind of funny.. but it’s an expensive past time.. think twice].  Good luck!

Post # 19
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Helper bee

Since you’d chosen your own ring. I feel like that kind of removes your right to have your fiancé to change the ring for you.

I definitely think you should wait for the wedding band. After that, you can switch the matching rings with it as you please. The wedding band would be the most symbolic one at that point anyways. (:

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Oh God, really? Poor man. He spent all that money on a ring YOU chose for the most important question of his life, and a year later you tell him it’s not good enough and you could just sell this special token of his love for you and trade it in for a better trinket?!

Why didn’t you just save up and buy yourself a ring for another finger? Why tell him and break his heart?

I find this kind of behaviour very hard to understand.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

Some of these replies are a bit harsh. Ultimately, marriage is supposed to be forever – so making sure you like what you will be wearing is important. And being honest with him – as you were is exactly what you should be doing. Do what works best for you guys and don’t let some people on the internet make you feel bad for changing your mind. 

Post # 22
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Newbee

I would keep it as it for now you haven’t been engaged very long like a lot of other Bee’s said wait a few years you might find your tastes change and you may not even want that new ring anymore.  I have the same but different situation.  I was married when I was 22 and now I am turning 40.  What I loved back then was more with that time and not classic and as I have gotten older my tastes have changed drastically and now want something different but we have been married for 17 years so my husband understands and it just wants me to love my ring again.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper

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leonatigra:  If you don’t understand the behavior perhaps you shouldn’t comment?  Call me crazy..logic prevails.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

OP, you’ll get over it. I picked out my ring and it was also half our our budget. There are days where I find myself liking other rings a little more, but it’s when I fall into the Weddingbee/Google rabbit hole. It’s only temporary. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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pglt09:  STOP LOOKING AT OTHER RINGS, LOL. Sounds like you have a nice one already 🙂

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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pglt09:  I doubt it’s white gold plated, if anything it’s 10k white gold or perhaps silver with rhodium plating. But fingers crossed it’s 14k!  If he sells the ring, he will likely get less than half of what he paid. That’s just how jewelry resale works. If he’s ok with that then by all means go for it. You probably have the option to sell it back to the jewelry store for credit, however this really isn’t the best option because they will give you far less than half. Best bet is to sell it online the use the money towards the new ring. I highly recommend diamondbistro.com and loupetroop.com. Goodluck and can’t wait to see some pics!  

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

Realistically, you’d be lucky to get half of what you paid for your first ring. Let’s say you’re able to sell it for $2000. So you’ve ‘lost’ $2500. Now you’re buying a $1300 ring- but you’re ‘spending’ $3800 (on something that is probably worth $200) just something to think about…

Jewelry is typically sold at a 1000% markup, so even getting $2000 for your first ring would be reallllly lucky, as based on what it cost, is probably only worth $400-500. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There will always be a prettier ring out there, just like there will always be a more attractive, funnier, richer guy out there.  Once you find the one, you have to stop and not keep looking. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I’m surprised how heated this got. 

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pglt09 if you want to get a new ring and your Fiance is cool with it and you two can afford it… I say GO FOR IT!!! Who cares what anyone else thinks! I think too many people are getting caught up on the financial cost of the ring when cost is always relative. Can’t wait to see the new ring OP.

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